Séminaire-Webinaire "Leçon inaugurale de l’École d’Économie Écologique" WikiAdmin

Séminaire-Webinaire "Leçon inaugurale de l’École d’Économie Écologique"

Description Libre avec Inscription obligatoire
Par "The other economy" et AJE (Association des journalistes de l'environnement)
Peut-on remplacer à l’infini les ressources naturelles ? Suffit-il de donner un prix aux pollutions pour les réduire ? La technologie va-t-elle nous sauver ?
Ouvert aux journalistes, ce séminaire réunira les meilleurs spécialistes français sur des questions aussi brûlantes que la transition juste, la monnaie et le climat ou le financement du programme électronucléaire français…
Ce cycle sera lancé, le 29 janvier 2026, à l’occasion d’une leçon inaugurale, prononcée à deux voix. Deux regards croisés, deux approches, deux expériences pour éclairer ces questions :
- Alain Grandjean, économiste, Président de The Other Economy, associé et cofondateur du Cabinet Carbone 4, ancien membre du Haut Conseil pour le Climat.
- Laurent Berger, directeur de l’Institut Mutualiste pour l’Environnement et la Solidarité du Crédit Mutuel Alliance Fédérale, ancien Secrétaire général de la CFDT.

Début de l'événement 29.01.2026 - 18:30

Fin de l'événement 29.01.2026 - 21:00

Adresse url https://5iecr.r.sp1-brevo.net/mk/mr/sh/SMJz09SDriOHW03F9YzxLKM0KPuV/f8CgjcVy1pD8

Adresse FIAP-Paris, 30 rue Cabanis / Salle RIO-1.

Code postal 75014

Ville Paris

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]]> Fri, 23 Jan 2026 21:38:18 +0100 Collapse-Café avec Réservation Obligatoire à joelmarty42@gmail.com (10-12 participant.e.s max) WikiAdmin

Collapse-Café avec Réservation Obligatoire à joelmarty42@gmail.com (10-12 participant.e.s max)

Description A l'invitation de "Adaptation radicale" et du CTC-42
Le Collapse Café combine un temps d'information sur les actualités de l'univers « collapso », un temps de lectures recommandées et un temps d’échanges pour se confronter à ses vrais et faux espoirs.

Début de l'événement 09.02.2026 - 18:00

Fin de l'événement 09.02.2026 - 20:00

Fichier : Collapsecaf_090226comp..pdf Télécharger

Adresse Remue-Méninges, 43 rue Michelet

Code postal 42000

Ville Saint-Etienne

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]]> Fri, 23 Jan 2026 21:05:49 +0100 Docu-livre-discussion "Caméras sous surveillance" / Entrée à prix libre WikiAdmin

Docu-livre-discussion "Caméras sous surveillance" / Entrée à prix libre

Description Soirée Halte au contrôle numérique
- Le reportage vidéo : « SOUS SURVEILLANCE » a été réalisé par des étudiants de l’École des Mines. Il suscite la discussion.
- Il sera suivi et complété par une présentation du livre « CAMÉRAS SOUS SURVEILLANCE ». Lutte contre l'oeil électronique » écrit par Martin Drago (La Quadrature du Net) ... pour enrichir le débat.
« Pour garantir la sécurité et la stabilité dans la continuité, la République sera bientôt réorganisée et deviendra la première puissance galactique impériale pour une société fondée sur l’ordre et la sécurité. » (Empereur Palpatine / Stars War)

Début de l'événement 03.02.2026 - 18:30

Fin de l'événement 03.02.2026 - 20:30

Fichier : SoireeSURVEILLANCE.pdf Télécharger

Adresse Cinéma Le Méliès Saint-François 8 rue de la Valse

Code postal 42100

Ville Saint-Etienne

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]]> Fri, 23 Jan 2026 02:56:37 +0100 Conférence sur l'humusation

Conférence sur l'humusation

Description Si vous ne l'avez pas écoutée au derneir Salon Tatou Juste, ne manquez pas cette conférence de Florence Valdès, présidente de l'association Humusation-France, qui vous présentera cette alternative écologique à l'inhumation et à la crémation, non encore légalisée en France.

Début de l'événement 20.02.2026 - 18:30

Fin de l'événement 20.02.2026 - 20:00

Adresse url https://humusationfrance.org/

Adresse Le Treuil

Code postal 42330

Ville CHAMBOEUF

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]]> Fri, 16 Jan 2026 17:14:51 +0100 ARPENTAGE du livre d’Estelle Depris : "La mécanique du privilège blanc. Comment l’identifier et le déjouer ?"

ARPENTAGE du livre d’Estelle Depris : "La mécanique du privilège blanc. Comment l’identifier et le déjouer ?"

Description Participation libre. Inscription indispensable avant le 2 février midi à l’adresse : lesarpenteusesdudimanche@proton.me
Les Arpenteuses du dimanche vous invitent à les rejoindre si vous vous posez aussi la question “comment devenir un.e meilleur.e allié.e dans la lutte antiraciste ?”.
Pour creuser cette question, prenons une journée pour arpenter cet ouvrage. L’idée étant de repartir avec plus de clarté sur notre positionnement personnel et des pistes pour nos actions futures.
Nul besoin d’être expert ou grand lecteur, venez avec votre désir d’apprendre et de faire bouger les lignes…
Qu’est-ce qu’arpenter ? C’est une pratique d’éducation populaire qui consiste à lire collectivement un ouvrage pour en comprendre les idées et s’éduquer.
Au programme :

9h30 : accueil
10h00 : début de l’arpentage
12h30 : pause déjeuner (auberge espagnole)
13h30 : reprise des échanges
16h : fin & goûter

Les Arpenteuses du dimanche : Catherine, Evé, Agnès

Début de l'événement 08.02.2026 - 09:30

Fin de l'événement 08.02.2026 - 16:30

Adresse Maison des associations, 3 rue Méhul

Code postal 42000

Ville Saint-Etienne

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]]> Sun, 11 Jan 2026 11:15:51 +0100 COMITE ANTIFA reçoit Raphaël ARNAUD

COMITE ANTIFA reçoit Raphaël ARNAUD

Description Evènement à confirmer, je n'ai aucun élément d'info. C'est vrai que janvier pour l'instant c'est maigre...et c'est normal après les agapes de fin d'année

Début de l'événement 11.01.2026

Fin de l'événement 11.01.2026

Code postal 42000

Ville st etienne

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]]> Fri, 26 Dec 2025 19:47:15 +0100 Formation Palestine proposée par SUD EDUCATION

Formation Palestine proposée par SUD EDUCATION

Description Ouverte à tous et toutes, salarié.e.s ou pas. Inscription à sudeducationloire@proton.me

Début de l'événement 22.01.2026 - 09:00

Fin de l'événement 23.01.2026 - 17:00

Adresse rue vaillant couturier, AL TARDY

Code postal 42

Ville SAINT-ETIENNE

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]]> Fri, 26 Dec 2025 19:42:48 +0100 Conférence participative « Tissons une autre mode ». par Marie-Anne MENOUD

Conférence participative « Tissons une autre mode ». par Marie-Anne MENOUD

Description A l'initiative du collectif "Groseille et Ciboulette"
À partir de l’analyse des processus de fabrication des principaux textiles (production de la matière première, filage, tissage, confection, transport) et de nos habitudes d’achat, nous comprenons les impacts économiques, sociaux, sanitaires et environnementaux qui ont accompagné la mondialisation de cette industrie.
Nous pouvons refaire de la production textile un outil de développement économique respectueux de notre santé et de l’environnement sur nos territoires.

Début de l'événement 16.12.2025 - 19:30

Fin de l'événement 16.12.2025 - 21:30

Adresse url https://groseille-et-ciboulette.fr/

Adresse salle Roger Planchon, 54 Bd Waldeck Rousseau,

Code postal 42400

Ville SAINT-CHAMOND

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]]> Tue, 16 Dec 2025 00:52:39 +0100 Atelier 2 tonnes de CO2

Atelier 2 tonnes de CO2

Description Cet atelier va vous permettre de découvrir les leviers individuels et collectifs de la transition vers un monde bas carbone, en créant en équipe votre propre scénario de transition bas-carbone jusque 2050.

Pour cela, nous allons simuler la transition en France à partir de vos empreintes carbone et de vos choix, et vous pourrez visualiser en temps réel leurs impacts sur l’évolution des émissions, au niveau individuel et au niveau collectif.

Début de l'événement 24.01.2026 - 14:00

Fin de l'événement 24.01.2026 - 17:00

Adresse url https://groseille-et-ciboulette.fr/

Fichier : Invit2Tonnes.pdf Télécharger

Adresse 14 chemin de Montgiraud

Code postal 42400

Ville Saint-Chamond

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]]> Mon, 15 Dec 2025 13:10:30 +0100 Réunion INfos Jardins partagés Cotonne

Réunion INfos Jardins partagés Cotonne

Description Préparer la gestion et le devenir de ce nouveau bien commun à la Cotonne
RDV au 6 Boulevard Allende à Saint-Etienne, annexe du centre social le Colibri

Début de l'événement 05.01.2026 - 17:00

Fin de l'événement 05.01.2026 - 19:00

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]]> Fri, 05 Dec 2025 11:44:43 +0100 Festival du Bien commun

Festival du Bien commun

Description Les algorithmes et les cabinets de conseil ont-ils remplacé les fonctionnaires ?
Qui pour prendre soin de l’hôpital public ?
A-t-on entendu les demandes des Gilets jaunes ?
De quels services publics aurons-nous besoin demain ?

Le temps d’un week-end, chercheur·euses, artistes et citoyen·nes engagé·es mettent sur la table ce sujet au cœur de nos sociétés et de nos démocraties, pour tenter de reprendre ensemble les chemins du “public”.

Cette première édition du festival Bien commun affirme l’urgence à défendre nos services publics, au service des citoyen·nes et de l’intérêt général.

Ce temps fort a été imaginé et construit avec Stéphanie Hennette-Vauchez, Antoine Vauchez (complices de la saison culturelle 2025-2026) et Olivier Leclerc.

https://www.chateaudegoutelas.fr/bien-commun/

Début de l'événement 06.12.2025

Fin de l'événement 07.12.2025

Adresse url https://www.chateaudegoutelas.fr/bien-commun/

Adresse 277 route de Goutelas

Code postal 42130

Ville Marcoux

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]]> Fri, 05 Dec 2025 11:33:41 +0100 Concert Les Frères Danzin Trio

Concert Les Frères Danzin Trio

Description Par la Maison Mémérou.
Entrée libre au chapeau. Réservation par SMS au 07 66 54 64 13
Pour une présentation du phénomène poétique et musical : https://ppdanzin.wixsite.com/ppdanzin/presentation
Un extrait ? https://youtu.be/8PngrMbsrw4
Le concert sera suivi d'un apéritif partagé
(penser à y contribuer) ...

Début de l'événement 14.12.2025 - 16:00

Fin de l'événement 14.12.2025 - 19:00

Adresse url https://ppdanzin.wixsite.com/ppdanzin/presentation

Adresse Maison Mémérou 5, place du bourg

Code postal 42240

Ville St-Paul en Cornillon

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]]> Wed, 03 Dec 2025 13:53:17 +0100 Table ronde « Les Etats Généraux des Migrations »

Table ronde « Les Etats Généraux des Migrations »

Description Cette journée EGM est mise en place par le Collectif d’associations ligérienne PAR « Pour que personne ne dorme à la rue » (environ 25 associations ou collectifs). personnealarue@orange.fr

Une journée pour se rencontrer, faire connaissance avec les autres associations, partager nos expériences et nos difficultés, écouter la parole de migrants …et mettre du lien entre nous pour que nos voix portent un peu ...
Stands associatifs, tables rondes, repas sur réservation, concert ...

Début de l'événement 15.11.2025 - 09:00

Fin de l'événement 15.11.2025 - 17:00

Adresse url https://untoitcesttout.org/?p=756

Adresse Salle Montagnon, Av Maurice Thorez

Code postal 42183

Ville La Ricamarie

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]]> Wed, 12 Nov 2025 02:42:29 +0100 La Vida Vegas

La Vida Vegas

Description We Lived Separate Lives
We Were Living Like Roommates
The Real Reason You Haven't Found Your Perfect Partner
Why Aren't You Married? Facing Your Love Alibi
Ever Have A False Positive In Dating?
When Love Manifestation Turns Into Mani-Frustration
Are You Discounting Yourself In Love?
Ordering Love Like A Latte
Looking For A Quick Fix For Your Love Life?
Impatient for Mr. Right?

Let me give you some highlights from the remainder of Vegas.

I put $20 into a slot machine and won $345. I cashed out quickly and held onto it for dear life. Love Vegas I do, but a gambler I am not.
QTMama gave me some advice on why I seem not to be attracting men in bars. I took her advice and promptly got molested by a short Hawaiian dude. Short dude asked me in the middle of a loud crowded bar, “Are you a sexual person?” I did not answer. A few minutes later, QTMama was called in to rescue me. This is what I get for taking advice.
Even after the debacle of drunkenness that was Thursday night/Friday morning, I was oddly not slowed down in my drinking at all. Not once on this entire trip did I get a hangover. And after that night I did not throw up again. I believe my liver is actually angry now because I haven’t had a single drink since I got back. I should look into solving that.
Folks, there was a whole lot more booze. QTMama and I would go out at night and not get home until it was light again the next morning. Vegas will forever be partying all night and endless alcohol in my mind. And I fully intend to prove that if/when I ever go back.
And here’s the last thing. On Sunday, QTMama and I got ready to go back home. We packed and chatted and laughed and generally tried to ignore the fact that we were preparing to leave. I feel safe speaking for her for just a moment to say that we both had an absolutely amazing time. And not just because of Vegas baby! And not just because of the booze. We both made a fast and strong friendship that weekend. I am not ashamed to say I got a little teary as we said our goodbyes.

So when do we go back???

Début de l'événement 15.04.2023

Fin de l'événement 15.04.2023

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]]> Tue, 15 Apr 2025 17:45:35 +0200 Sunday weigh-in... and um, my "boyfriend" (???)

Sunday weigh-in... and um, my "boyfriend" (???)

Description There’s No Such Thing as a “Good” or “Bad” Marriage
A Married Man Needs Only 3 Things From His Wife
I Am Not The Caretaker of My Marriage
10 Guilty Pleasures For Couples
The Man Behind How I Have It All
14 Ways Having Kids Affects Your Relationship
Love Rewards the Brave
The Book That Changed the Way I Look at Love
When Divorce Runs in the Family
The Silence That Can Save Your Relationship
Is It Ever OK to Lie to Your Spouse?

Good news: I managed to lose 2.4 lbs this past week, bringing me back to my most recent low weight of 132.8 – big celebration! (confirms that last week’s gain was indeed most likely due to PMS – thanks for all your knowing words of support!).

Now – got to keep this loss moving along. 130 is a big hurdle I haven’t crossed in years, so that’s my current goal – to jump that hurdle!

It’s been a fun weekend, with lots of TC time. We enjoyed a rather elegant dinner out last night, with both of us drinking a bit too much – wine pairings can be fun, but dangerous! But WOW, did he look dapper, all dressed up!

Towards the end of the night, in a slightly inebriated state, I asked TC how I should introduce him today – I was bringing him to an event where he was likely to meet some of my friends. At first he joked, what about “gentleman caller”? Or “lov-ah” – but you have to say it like that, “LOV-AH”! (yes, he's the joking type) He soon admitted that recently, in conversations with some of his friends, it felt natural for him to refer to me as his “girlfriend”, since we’ve already established that we’re only dating one another, and he’s “enjoying the progression of the relationship”.

As far as that last line -- at least I THINK that's what he said! I know he used the word “relationship”, and even in the moment, I found myself wishing I had a tape recorder so I could remember exactly what he was saying. Damn wine, doing fuzzy things to the memory!

Today at the event, when the moment came for me to introduce him to a group of friends (acquaintances, really), I quickly said, “This is my boyfriend, [TC]”. (I had to say it quickly, for fear that I'd choke on the words!) I’m not sure how much he remembered of last night’s conversation, but he didn’t seem at all fazed by the intro. I’m not sure if I’m really ready to jump into full “boyfriend / girlfriend” jargon (we’ve only been dating a little over a month), but I think if we ease into it like a warm bath, that will be the most natural way to go.

It’s been in the back of my mind: when / how to tell him about the blog? This blog has been an amazing source of catharsis for me these past 10 months – when I was having my most depressing and frustrating dating experiences, I found out through reader comments (and other bloggers) that I’m certainly not alone in these feelings. And I even made a Real Live Friend though our blogs, Cute Jewess.

I think I’ll know when the time is right – and it’s not just yet. TC is a pretty open-minded and laid-back guy (two of the many things I like about him)… and I sense that he’ll be nonplussed when I tell him about the blog. Eventually.

Début de l'événement 10.04.2023

Fin de l'événement 10.04.2023

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]]> Thu, 10 Apr 2025 17:25:31 +0200 And in the lead...

And in the lead...

Description My Dead First Husband Is Haunting My Marriage
My Husband Is Ashamed of Me
My Husband Barely Talks to Me Anymore — So I Cheated on Him
My Husband Is a Big Bore
My Husband is a Compulsive Gambler
My Husband Is Depressed
When Your Boyfriend Flirts Too Much
When "Taking It Slow" Feels Like a Red Flag
The Ethics Of Breaking Up With A Sick Partner
State of the Relationship Union
Widowed and Dating: Navigating Sympathy and Honesty
Love vs. Security: Can You Build a Future Without That ‘Spark’?
What Really Counts as Cheating?
Polyamory Dating or Just Playing?

Things are feeling really good with Capt Awesome -- "really good", as in, I think I'm not going to date anyone else at the moment. I just can't get to know other guys when I really want to get to know just one guy in particular.

This was pretty evident on my date with Smooch the other night. I warned him earlier in the day that I was getting over a cold -- this was somewhat true (I seem to have had a mild cold for the past few weeks) -- but I mainly wanted to establish that this would be a relatively nookie-free night. (note: not sure what YOUR definition is of "nookie" -- in this case, I'm just referring to kissing)

I'm sure he sensed something was different -- it just wasn't as comfortable and easy as it had been on our two previous dates. Who knows - things might have been different if we had carried on dating consistently after our first date in the end of August. But it just is how it is. So.

Capt Awesome and I have been emailing and texting every day. We have a fabulous, long date planned for tomorrow... and he has already invited me to a party next week.

AND... I did a bit of cybersnooping, and discovered two things:
1. he took down his Jdate profile -- wow!
2. we're not Facebook friends, but he has no privacy settings up, which means I can read his wall, check out his pics, etc even though we're not FB "friends". In one status update, he wrote that he was having a particularly good week -- when a friend inquired about that, he responded that work was going well and he'd "met a new girl".

I'm just feeling giddy and smiley about him right now. And if I hear from Smooch again? I'm not sure. Do I tell him that I've met someone? (perhaps a bit premature) Or do I tell him that work / life is too busy right now, and maybe we can touch base in a few weeks? Hm. Will cross that bridge when I get to it. (interesting sidenote: it just happens that Smooch wrote to one of my friends on Jdate this week -- of course, he has no idea that she's my friend. Coincidence.)

Début de l'événement 02.04.2023

Fin de l'événement 02.04.2023

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]]> Wed, 02 Apr 2025 15:28:37 +0200 Oh you can cook, I’m in love with you

Oh you can cook, I’m in love with you

Description Marriage vs. Addiction: Winning the Battle for Love
Marriage Without Intimacy: Can Love Survive the Distance?
Holding On or Letting Go: When Addiction Tests a Marriage
The Marriage We Almost Lost: How Unemployment Changed Everything
Marriage And Chaos: Finding Common Ground in Parenting
He Seemed Interested. So Why Didn’t He Call?
Online Dating Isn’t Desperation
Changing Your Dating Approach
Why Modern Dating is More Complicated Than Ever
Dating Someone With Debt
Marriage vs. Parenthood: Life After Having a Baby
The Fine Line Between Casual Dating and Commitment
How to Handle the Truth After Discovering a Betray

lol awesome. Love it. You don’t have to be logical at all with your reasons for why you break up with her…the point is that you give ANY reason, just like falling in love with her. “Oh you can cook, I’m in love with you. What are those shoes you’re wearing? Black shoes? No I hate black shoes, we’re broken up.” Like, it can be just complete arbitrary illogical nonsense…that’s all you self-amusing and it keeps her going “omg wtf is with this guy lol I can’t keep up!! He’s crazy lol!!”

But step back and look at that logically, what’s going on there? You’re leading the convo, you’re setting the frame, and she’s playing catch-up to you leading the interaction.

Compare that to “Do you like Band Blah? Oh that’s cool, me too…so umm what about Band Durr? Oh you like them? I’m not a big fan, I mean they’re okay but I think their older songs were better…like do you know this one song–” zzzzzzzzzzzzzzz…

Which interaction is more fun and pushing the girl through more of an emotional rollercoaster, you know?

“After a few seconds, I’m like ‘remember that time we broke up. listen, I didn’t mean all of that. You just make me really mad sometimes.’”

Fucking lol. This is awesome. I’m probably going to steal it. It reminds me of Matt Damon at the end of this set of clips from Entourage:

Where he’s crying and then apologizing lol Like it’s such a classic stereotype thing that it’s hilarious to see, let alone be the recipient of, from someone you’ve literally just met for the first time a few minutes ago, you know? Great stuff.

“And she’s like ‘oh, okay…well so are we back together?’”

And now you guys are roleplaying being a couple. :) This is all good stuff in terms of flirting in general. This isn’t gay friend zone supplicating to her shit. This chick might not fuck you or anything, but this is a solid interaction and she’s completely in your frame.

Début de l'événement 27.03.2022

Fin de l'événement 27.03.2022

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]]> Thu, 27 Mar 2025 17:50:15 +0100 Ms. Fading Failure

Ms. Fading Failure

Description How a Meddling Mother Nearly Ruined My Marriage
How We Rebuilt Our Marriage Through Therapy
Saving a Marriage After an Affair
Can Marriage Survive Infidelity?
Is Your Marriage a Partnership or a Prison?
Keep Him From Walking Out That Door
Managing Expectations in Dating
Why I Believe In Marriage
Dating Advice From Happily Married Couples
The Man or the Money
Walk Away From Parental Control in Relationships
When You’re Stuck in the “Casual Dating” Zone
A Necessary Courtesy or Just Overkill in Online Dating?

Oh boy. “The Fade.”

The infamous Fade has been a staple of human dating rituals since… gosh, it doesn’t really matter. You know what I’m talking about. Boy meets girl. Boy goes on date(s) with girl. Boy realizes that he is not into girl. Boy doesn’t call girl. Girl may attempt contact with boy. Boy ignores and fades into nothing. Girl eats caramels and moves on. The end.

www.nataliedee.com

I’ve been faded many a time in my life. I’ve even done some fading myself. The Fade is an established social convention indicating at least one party’s lack of interest in the other.

However, I’m not sure that all Parisian men are as familiar with the Fade as we are in the anglophone dating world.

I have attempted, on multiple occasions, to fade my way out of undesirable entanglements here. According to past experiences on American soil, this should have gone off without a hitch.

But, of course, upon arrival in Paris, hitches abounded, and the most illustrative example is someone to whom I refer as Mr. Gym Stalker.

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Mr. Gym Stalker worked the front desk at my gym. While I didn’t pay much attention to the front desk staff at the time, my gym buddy, the Irish Parisienne, pointed out to me that Mr. Gym Stalker had developed a little crush on me.

I laughed it off and just continued along my merry little way.

But one day, as I was on my way out, he summoned me over and told me that he needed to ask me about something.

Mr. G.S. : “I noticed that you don’t come here as often as you used to.”

Man-shopper : “Yeah, I moved. I only work out here if I’m in the neighborhood. I go to a different location now.”

Mr. G.S. : “Here’s the thing. I’ve been working here for two years now, and I can’t work out here anymore because people recognize me while I’m working out, assume that I’m on duty, and bother me.”

Man-shopper : “Uhhh, okay….”

Mr. G.S. : “It’s really difficult for me to motivate myself to work out at other locations, so I was wondering if you’d like to work out sometime at the location that you go to now. Planning to meet up with people motivates me more than if I were to just go by myself.”

www.nataliedee.com

Man-shopper : “Oh, ok, gym buddies are cool. Well, I go to spin class, you’re welcome to join me.”

And I thought that’d be it. I didn’t think that it would be a big deal, since I didn’t intend on returning to this gym location anymore. My move was finally official, and it was no longer convenient for me to trek out there. So, in my mind, this wasn’t a date, and I didn’t give him my number. This was just a… a nothing.

But then the phone calls started.

I had that gym’s phone number programmed into my phone, and I noticed that the gym would be calling me everyday, but nobody ever left a message. I didn’t bother call back, as I figured that if the gym had official business with me, they’d leave a message.

After a few weeks of this, I began to get lots of calls from a mobile number that I didn’t recognize, and sometimes from a masked phone number. Again, I don’t answer or return calls unless I know the number or if I’m expecting a call. These calls were really starting to concern me, as they would occur at least several times per day, sometimes as late as 11 at night.

I decided to approach this matter as if the caller were an undesirable and clueless suitor. I figured, the Fade should work eventually, right? I’ll just sit tight and be unresponsive until he gets the point and goes away.

A couple of months later of these persistent phone calls, I began to think that my phone was possessed. Who the hell would keep calling me like this without leaving a message??

www.nataliedee.com

I lived in fear of my phone.

I turned off its ringer.

One fateful day — my birthday, actually — I get a text message from the mystery mobile number.

“Hi, I just wanted to wish you a happy 27th birthday. All the best, Mr. G.C.”

So let’s recap the horribleness of this situation:

Mr. G.C. pulled my mobile number from the gym’s client files and proceeded to harass me for months without leaving a voicemail.

Mr. G.C. then pulled MY BIRTHDAY from my file and used the number acquired by inappropriate channels in order to harass me further.

My Fade failed miserably.

It had nothing to do with my technique. It is physically impossible to botch a Fade. Non-response is the easiest cop-out thing to do in the world.

But some creeptastic, stalkerish, dodgy Parisian men simply refuse to be Faded.

However, this is not to say that the Fade doesn’t have its uses on the Parisian scene. Even if the Fade fails miserably as a suitor-ditching technique, it is, however, a great way to determine whether one needs to consider taking out a restraining order.

Début de l'événement 26.03.2023

Fin de l'événement 26.03.2023

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]]> Wed, 26 Mar 2025 17:31:49 +0100 Second Attempt at a Half Assed Weekend Post

Second Attempt at a Half Assed Weekend Post

Description Surviving a Long-Term Affair and Saving a Marriage
Transforming Communication and Parenting in a Troubled Marriage
Healing a Marriage by Confronting Insecurities and Building Trust
Religious Differences and Strengthening Marriage Bonds
The Affection Gap: Bridging Emotional Distance in a Long-Term Marriage
Workplace Dating Detours
When Blind Dates Go Wrong
Comfort Vs. Fulfillment In Modern Dating
Demanding Respect and Openness in a Relationship
Get Outta My Dating Pool
Seeking Clarity and Connection in Dating
Gym Flirting 101
Finding Balance in Love After Loss

So my last post wasn't as Half Assed as I'd like it to be...so I am doing another one. I know...I know...it negates the half assed-ness of it all. I'm a perfectionist...and I feel like I could do a lesser post...so back off!

Last night I was driving to my friends house and I was listening to my Josh Groban Christmas album on my ipod (plugged into my AUX...not with my ear pods in) and singing away while I sat in some traffic. Then a song I hadn't heard came on and I cried. I mean...full fledged tears running down my cheeks and I tried to make sure my makeup didn't smudge (cause I'm girlie like that). I would be okay then the refrain hit and I cried again. I got to the hiccuping stage and everything. I know-I'm special-still something about this song just hit a chord with me.

I was listening to the lyrics and I swear to you I thought, "Rita would love this song. This song is going to make her cry too." So I decided to share it. I'm dedicating this song to lovely Rita over at The Adventures of Cinderita. I know you are having a rough time right now and that you don't need cheering. I get that but all the same I just know that this song will mean to you what it means to me. Enjoy it.

Now that I am crying all over again it is time for me to go and get some wrapping done. I hope everyone had/is having a wonderful weekend. I also have to send a big congrats out to Simple Dude for the success of his half assed weekend posts! :-)

Début de l'événement 24.03.2023

Fin de l'événement 24.03.2023

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]]> Mon, 24 Mar 2025 17:50:38 +0100 White Lies

White Lies

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Unmasking Hidden Unhappiness in Marriage
Workaholic Heartbreak: When Success Costs Your Marriage
Recession Realities: When Financial Stress Tests a Marriage
When Unemployment Tests Marriage
Movies That All Women Should See To Understand Men
Love Lies and Responsibility
The Dating Mishaps of the Ladies of Love Twenty
The Black Male Preference Privilege
Anatomy of a Great (Reality) Relationship
Your Rear End or Your Pride
Why Splitting Costs Isn't Splitting Love
(Broken) Laws of Attraction

I think that we look back on relationships, ex’s, and lovers with a distorted lens. So frequently, at least for my friends and me, we’ll leave unhappy relationships only to look back and say “He really wasn’t that bad. He had his sweet moments when he did special little things.” When more often than not those special little things (flowers, cards, small gifts) were fabrications told to our friends to justify being with somebody who preferred gaming, drinking, and time with friends over spending time with you. White lies told to friends so they didn’t tell us to leave him for being no good for us. Why didn’t we want to leave him? Simple, we’d already told ourselves a thousand little lies to make him our “dream man” and we couldn’t possibly leave a man with so much potential! (Read previous blog: “falling in love with potential)

This projecting doesn’t just end with men though. Sometimes a woman will lie to herself about how appreciated she is at work. Inside we know that we aren’t being paid enough but if anyone asks we will tell them, “Oh, they know they would be lost without me.” In truth, they might be lost without you, but they are still blindly ignorant of this fact.

There are so many aspects that we will lie to ourselves and others about. We will pretend to be in a better place financially before admitting to others that we may not be able to afford the same things as them. We will talk up our important at work, within relationships, etc to give us more worth. These small exaggerations are still lies. They make us feel better about things we may have insecurities about. Sometimes we lie to make ourselves sound more exciting to others, maybe add some titillating details to a night that didn’t actual occur. They start out so innocent, but they have a way of getting away from us.

I sometimes realize I’m doing this, and sometimes I don’t. I don’t know why I feel the need to exaggerate things…things with no real meaning. I’m not making up that instead of saying, “I had a great night tonight, Jewels.” He really said, “This was the best night of my life and I think I might be in love with you.” I don’t go overboard with things…but that’s not the point…why do I do this at all!?

“The most common lie is that which one lies to himself; lying to others is relatively an exception.” Friedrich Nietzsche

A friend of mine thinks it’s because I’m white and all white people lie. I’m not sure how valid this is. Maybe it has something to do with having such an awesome imagination that I feel guilty not using it. Either way…I’m not sure that I’m hurting anyone…except maybe myself. You are probably reading this now wondering how honest I have been while writing this, and previous, blog entries. I promise you that I have not lied, exaggerated, or fabricated any of my blogs. This is meant to be an honest and frank journal for myself and lying here would be totally counterproductive. So rest easy, Reader, and know that what you read here is nothing more than the honest and often random ramblings of a woman finding her way in the world.

So I guess my question to you is: Do you do this too? Have you stopped short when telling a story when you realized “Why did I just say that? That didn’t actually happen!?” Have you found yourself in a tangle of little lies that added up? Do you lie to yourself about your job, relationship, and your own feelings? It’s not an easy thing to realize…that even if my lies hurt nobody…I’m still a liar. Ugh…how awful!

Début de l'événement 20.03.2022

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