20 Embarrassing Sex Questions We All Ask (In Our Heads)
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A Decent Girl For a Nice Guy
When it comes to talking about sex, we can often be too embarrassed to ask questions at the risk of sounding weird – or like full-fledged perverts. Regardless of how many times we ‘do it’, there are always questions that manage to go by unanswered. From the innocent to the downright dirty, read on for a list of some of the most common (yet unspoken of) questions surrounding the topic of sex.
1. How come alcohol can make me have sex and at other times, leave me too drunk to have sex at all?
2. Why are so many men afraid of sex toys yet women just laugh at the sight of a blow-up doll?
3. What is up with men obsessing over anal sex? Is it really that special?
4. Why do people make such a big deal about the size of a man’s penis when most women can’t orgasm through vaginal sex?
5. What killed the acceptance of a full bush?
6. Why do babies come out of the same place where they were conceived?
7. Why do vaginas smell once in awhile?
8. What exactly does online sex smell like?
9. Why do some guys insist on pushing girl’s heads down when they’re perfuming oral sex?
10. Why do some people chose spit over lube?
11. Why is it that having sex with hot people doesn’t necessarily make for good sex?
12. If foreplay is more stimulation than regular sex, why even bother?
13. Why do men like to cum on women’s faces and breasts?
14. What’s the purpose of penis rings exactly?
15. Why are men more comfortable with getting naked than women?
16. Do orgasms increase women’s chances of getting pregnant?
17. How many calories am I consuming if I swallow after sex?
18. What’s the nutritional value in sperm?
19. How does a man’s sperm differ from women’s nether fluids?
20. In matters of gay sex; what happens to a man’s sperm inside another man’s body?
Attack of The Killer Ex
How To Deal With A Psycho Ex During The Holidays
Attention Mongers Crybabies and Dramaheads
25 Signals You're Not Ready For a Online Dating
5 Skills Every Man And Woman Should Master
Can Sex Be A Laughing Matter?
The Sh*t Women Say That Piss Off Men
Dating a Jersey Shore Fan
Dealing With Exes on Valentine’s Day
A Decent Girl For a Nice Guy
When it comes to talking about sex, we can often be too embarrassed to ask questions at the risk of sounding weird – or like full-fledged perverts. Regardless of how many times we ‘do it’, there are always questions that manage to go by unanswered. From the innocent to the downright dirty, read on for a list of some of the most common (yet unspoken of) questions surrounding the topic of sex.
1. How come alcohol can make me have sex and at other times, leave me too drunk to have sex at all?
2. Why are so many men afraid of sex toys yet women just laugh at the sight of a blow-up doll?
3. What is up with men obsessing over anal sex? Is it really that special?
4. Why do people make such a big deal about the size of a man’s penis when most women can’t orgasm through vaginal sex?
5. What killed the acceptance of a full bush?
6. Why do babies come out of the same place where they were conceived?
7. Why do vaginas smell once in awhile?
8. What exactly does online sex smell like?
9. Why do some guys insist on pushing girl’s heads down when they’re perfuming oral sex?
10. Why do some people chose spit over lube?
11. Why is it that having sex with hot people doesn’t necessarily make for good sex?
12. If foreplay is more stimulation than regular sex, why even bother?
13. Why do men like to cum on women’s faces and breasts?
14. What’s the purpose of penis rings exactly?
15. Why are men more comfortable with getting naked than women?
16. Do orgasms increase women’s chances of getting pregnant?
17. How many calories am I consuming if I swallow after sex?
18. What’s the nutritional value in sperm?
19. How does a man’s sperm differ from women’s nether fluids?
20. In matters of gay sex; what happens to a man’s sperm inside another man’s body?
Début de l'événement
13.12.2021
Fin de l'événement
13.12.2021
And in the lead...
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My Dead First Husband Is Haunting My Marriage
My Husband Is Ashamed of Me
My Husband Barely Talks to Me Anymore — So I Cheated on Him
My Husband Is a Big Bore
My Husband is a Compulsive Gambler
My Husband Is Depressed
When Your Boyfriend Flirts Too Much
When "Taking It Slow" Feels Like a Red Flag
The Ethics Of Breaking Up With A Sick Partner
State of the Relationship Union
Widowed and Dating: Navigating Sympathy and Honesty
Love vs. Security: Can You Build a Future Without That ‘Spark’?
What Really Counts as Cheating?
Polyamory Dating or Just Playing?
Things are feeling really good with Capt Awesome -- "really good", as in, I think I'm not going to date anyone else at the moment. I just can't get to know other guys when I really want to get to know just one guy in particular.
This was pretty evident on my date with Smooch the other night. I warned him earlier in the day that I was getting over a cold -- this was somewhat true (I seem to have had a mild cold for the past few weeks) -- but I mainly wanted to establish that this would be a relatively nookie-free night. (note: not sure what YOUR definition is of "nookie" -- in this case, I'm just referring to kissing)
I'm sure he sensed something was different -- it just wasn't as comfortable and easy as it had been on our two previous dates. Who knows - things might have been different if we had carried on dating consistently after our first date in the end of August. But it just is how it is. So.
Capt Awesome and I have been emailing and texting every day. We have a fabulous, long date planned for tomorrow... and he has already invited me to a party next week.
AND... I did a bit of cybersnooping, and discovered two things:
1. he took down his Jdate profile -- wow!
2. we're not Facebook friends, but he has no privacy settings up, which means I can read his wall, check out his pics, etc even though we're not FB "friends". In one status update, he wrote that he was having a particularly good week -- when a friend inquired about that, he responded that work was going well and he'd "met a new girl".
I'm just feeling giddy and smiley about him right now. And if I hear from Smooch again? I'm not sure. Do I tell him that I've met someone? (perhaps a bit premature) Or do I tell him that work / life is too busy right now, and maybe we can touch base in a few weeks? Hm. Will cross that bridge when I get to it. (interesting sidenote: it just happens that Smooch wrote to one of my friends on Jdate this week -- of course, he has no idea that she's my friend. Coincidence.)
My Husband Is Ashamed of Me
My Husband Barely Talks to Me Anymore — So I Cheated on Him
My Husband Is a Big Bore
My Husband is a Compulsive Gambler
My Husband Is Depressed
When Your Boyfriend Flirts Too Much
When "Taking It Slow" Feels Like a Red Flag
The Ethics Of Breaking Up With A Sick Partner
State of the Relationship Union
Widowed and Dating: Navigating Sympathy and Honesty
Love vs. Security: Can You Build a Future Without That ‘Spark’?
What Really Counts as Cheating?
Polyamory Dating or Just Playing?
Things are feeling really good with Capt Awesome -- "really good", as in, I think I'm not going to date anyone else at the moment. I just can't get to know other guys when I really want to get to know just one guy in particular.
This was pretty evident on my date with Smooch the other night. I warned him earlier in the day that I was getting over a cold -- this was somewhat true (I seem to have had a mild cold for the past few weeks) -- but I mainly wanted to establish that this would be a relatively nookie-free night. (note: not sure what YOUR definition is of "nookie" -- in this case, I'm just referring to kissing)
I'm sure he sensed something was different -- it just wasn't as comfortable and easy as it had been on our two previous dates. Who knows - things might have been different if we had carried on dating consistently after our first date in the end of August. But it just is how it is. So.
Capt Awesome and I have been emailing and texting every day. We have a fabulous, long date planned for tomorrow... and he has already invited me to a party next week.
AND... I did a bit of cybersnooping, and discovered two things:
1. he took down his Jdate profile -- wow!
2. we're not Facebook friends, but he has no privacy settings up, which means I can read his wall, check out his pics, etc even though we're not FB "friends". In one status update, he wrote that he was having a particularly good week -- when a friend inquired about that, he responded that work was going well and he'd "met a new girl".
I'm just feeling giddy and smiley about him right now. And if I hear from Smooch again? I'm not sure. Do I tell him that I've met someone? (perhaps a bit premature) Or do I tell him that work / life is too busy right now, and maybe we can touch base in a few weeks? Hm. Will cross that bridge when I get to it. (interesting sidenote: it just happens that Smooch wrote to one of my friends on Jdate this week -- of course, he has no idea that she's my friend. Coincidence.)
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02.04.2023
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Are Happy Marriages a Myth What Couples Who Last Do Differently
Description
I Travel The World. Alone.
An Internal Monologue While Perusing Online Dating Matches
How To Hook Up In A Hostel есть 100 дубликат на frisky
How Do You Know When You’re Ready To Vacation Together?
How To Enjoy Travelling When You’re Not On Your Honeymoon
I Fantasize About Other Men
Why It’s Easier To Meet Men On Vacation есть 100 дубликат на frisky
If You’re 300,000 Miles Away, Don’t Call Your New Man
Will Our Marriage Survive Our First Road Trip Together?
When On Vacation ... Just Say Yes
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TBC Says:
May 8th, 2013 at 3:33 pm
i would love to get the update on this!! please, fill us in so we have a romantic story or learn more about ‘red flags’–either way, a learning experience.
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Mit Says:
June 21st, 2013 at 1:19 pm
I think its sad that authors like this fill the web with garbage. This is essentially the same thing that is happening in the manosphere. Man vs Woman is going to leave us in a mess of a world. We unfortunately have meshing parts and are supposed to be in harmony with each other. There is nothing wrong with loving someone and feeling emotionally committed to another human being. I think the level of detachment, serial dating and string-short-term relationships, if anything, can be unhealthy on the human mind. It’s easy to sit behind a computer and post what you think is right or wrong for someone. The sad truth is, how fucked up is our world when we go to the internet for our answers to love.
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LJG Says:
October 16th, 2013 at 1:35 pm
Hi there,
An Internal Monologue While Perusing Online Dating Matches
How To Hook Up In A Hostel есть 100 дубликат на frisky
How Do You Know When You’re Ready To Vacation Together?
How To Enjoy Travelling When You’re Not On Your Honeymoon
I Fantasize About Other Men
Why It’s Easier To Meet Men On Vacation есть 100 дубликат на frisky
If You’re 300,000 Miles Away, Don’t Call Your New Man
Will Our Marriage Survive Our First Road Trip Together?
When On Vacation ... Just Say Yes
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TBC Says:
May 8th, 2013 at 3:33 pm
i would love to get the update on this!! please, fill us in so we have a romantic story or learn more about ‘red flags’–either way, a learning experience.
Hot debate. What do you think? Thumb up 10 Thumb down 1
Reply
Mit Says:
June 21st, 2013 at 1:19 pm
I think its sad that authors like this fill the web with garbage. This is essentially the same thing that is happening in the manosphere. Man vs Woman is going to leave us in a mess of a world. We unfortunately have meshing parts and are supposed to be in harmony with each other. There is nothing wrong with loving someone and feeling emotionally committed to another human being. I think the level of detachment, serial dating and string-short-term relationships, if anything, can be unhealthy on the human mind. It’s easy to sit behind a computer and post what you think is right or wrong for someone. The sad truth is, how fucked up is our world when we go to the internet for our answers to love.
Hot debate. What do you think? Thumb up 9 Thumb down 6
Reply
LJG Says:
October 16th, 2013 at 1:35 pm
Hi there,
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ARPENTAGE du livre d’Estelle Depris : "La mécanique du privilège blanc. Comment l’identifier et le déjouer ?"
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Nul besoin d’être expert ou grand lecteur, venez avec votre désir d’apprendre et de faire bouger les lignes…
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Les Arpenteuses du dimanche vous invitent à les rejoindre si vous vous posez aussi la question “comment devenir un.e meilleur.e allié.e dans la lutte antiraciste ?”.
Pour creuser cette question, prenons une journée pour arpenter cet ouvrage. L’idée étant de repartir avec plus de clarté sur notre positionnement personnel et des pistes pour nos actions futures.
Nul besoin d’être expert ou grand lecteur, venez avec votre désir d’apprendre et de faire bouger les lignes…
Qu’est-ce qu’arpenter ? C’est une pratique d’éducation populaire qui consiste à lire collectivement un ouvrage pour en comprendre les idées et s’éduquer.
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Pour cela, nous allons simuler la transition en France à partir de vos empreintes carbone et de vos choix, et vous pourrez visualiser en temps réel leurs impacts sur l’évolution des émissions, au niveau individuel et au niveau collectif.
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Can You Ever Be a Priority When You’re Dating a Single Parent
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Is He Assertive or Just Angry?
Why I’m Done Playing by Traditional Dating Rules
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And I too agree that Lex is rad.
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Lex
March 22, 2011 at 7:35 am #
Thanks so much! You guys are makin’ me blush!
Since when did being female, educated, and financially independent become mutually exclusive with men paying for our dinner?? No one here has tried to assert that us single women want to be treated equally as men in the dating arena. (In the workplace, when it comes to salary for the same job/skills/effort – okay yes we do and we can have that debate at another time.) Here, we are talking about dating, and if you try and play the “equality” argument you are going to get owned. There is no such thing as equality in dating, pretty sure we’d all be single. You men if anything should be grateful for just how easy it is for you these days. And if you’re bold enough to bitch about spending $ on your date – then YOU my friend are the problem and you are most certainly NOT worth dating.
Oh and what is this myth about girls getting guys to take them out on dates for the free dinner!? I do not know ONE SINGLE woman that would do that. I know I sure as hell am not going suffer through a tedious dinner date w/ a guy I don’t like. I have a LIFE…
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princesabin
March 22, 2011 at 6:03 pm #
A lot of my friends have experienced this. One of my friends told me her boss (now a high powered attorney) fed herself through law school going on dates.
And I’ve definitely gotten that impression from some of the girls I’ve gone out with.
Why I’m Done Playing by Traditional Dating Rules
Modern Romance: The New Dating Rules
Can You Spot the Four Types of Men Out There?
What to Do When a Friendship Becomes Toxic
How to Take Advantage of Being Single
He Acted Like He Was Still Single
Following My Dream Nearly Cost Me My Marriage
And I too agree that Lex is rad.
Reply
Lex
March 22, 2011 at 7:35 am #
Thanks so much! You guys are makin’ me blush!
Since when did being female, educated, and financially independent become mutually exclusive with men paying for our dinner?? No one here has tried to assert that us single women want to be treated equally as men in the dating arena. (In the workplace, when it comes to salary for the same job/skills/effort – okay yes we do and we can have that debate at another time.) Here, we are talking about dating, and if you try and play the “equality” argument you are going to get owned. There is no such thing as equality in dating, pretty sure we’d all be single. You men if anything should be grateful for just how easy it is for you these days. And if you’re bold enough to bitch about spending $ on your date – then YOU my friend are the problem and you are most certainly NOT worth dating.
Oh and what is this myth about girls getting guys to take them out on dates for the free dinner!? I do not know ONE SINGLE woman that would do that. I know I sure as hell am not going suffer through a tedious dinner date w/ a guy I don’t like. I have a LIFE…
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princesabin
March 22, 2011 at 6:03 pm #
A lot of my friends have experienced this. One of my friends told me her boss (now a high powered attorney) fed herself through law school going on dates.
And I’ve definitely gotten that impression from some of the girls I’ve gone out with.
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Fançois Buffaud est un humaniste, avec son trio les musiciens vont vous faire le plus grand bien pour rebooster vos batteries en cé début d'automne pluvieux.
Début de l'événement
12.10.2024 - 20:30
Fin de l'événement
12.10.2024 - 23:00
Adresse url
https://www.la-maison-memerou.com/prochainement
Adresse
5 Place du Bourg
Code postal
42240
Ville
SAINT PAUL EN CORNILLON
Concert de piano de la "pianigatrice" Marieke Huysmans-Berthou
Description
Participation au chapeau
Début de l'événement
29.09.2024 - 16:00
Fin de l'événement
29.09.2024 - 18:00
Adresse url
https://www.la-maison-memerou.com
Adresse
La Maison Mémérou, 5 place du bourg
Ville
Saint Paul en Cornillon
Concert de piano de la pianigatrice Marieke Huysman-Berthou
Description
La Maison Mémérou vous propose d'écouter le concert-piano de Marieke.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HMCdlfbVrS8
entrée libre (chapeau)
Le tout suivi d'un apéritif partagé
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HMCdlfbVrS8
entrée libre (chapeau)
Le tout suivi d'un apéritif partagé
Début de l'événement
29.09.2024 - 16:00
Fin de l'événement
29.09.2024 - 18:30
Adresse url
https://www.la-maison-memerou.com/prochainement
Concert Les Frères Danzin Trio
Description
Par la Maison Mémérou.
Entrée libre au chapeau. Réservation par SMS au 07 66 54 64 13
Pour une présentation du phénomène poétique et musical : https://ppdanzin.wixsite.com/ppdanzin/presentation
Un extrait ? https://youtu.be/8PngrMbsrw4
Le concert sera suivi d'un apéritif partagé
(penser à y contribuer) ...
Entrée libre au chapeau. Réservation par SMS au 07 66 54 64 13
Pour une présentation du phénomène poétique et musical : https://ppdanzin.wixsite.com/ppdanzin/presentation
Un extrait ? https://youtu.be/8PngrMbsrw4
Le concert sera suivi d'un apéritif partagé
(penser à y contribuer) ...
Début de l'événement
14.12.2025 - 16:00
Fin de l'événement
14.12.2025 - 19:00
Adresse
Maison Mémérou 5, place du bourg
Code postal
42240
Ville
St-Paul en Cornillon
Conférence et rencontre autour du livre "Une autre histoire des excréments" - 17 juin 2026
Description
Médaillé de l’académie d’agriculture, diplômé de Polytechnique et chercheur, Fabien ESCULIER dirige depuis 10 ans le laboratoire « eau environnement et systèmes urbains » de l’école nationale des Ponts et Chaussées, qui explore la valorisation agricole des urines et matières fécales.
Allez-vous prendre le risque de voir nos toilettes différemment après cette soirée qui va défier les tabous pour parler pipi, caca, ressource, alimentation, système "alimentation-excression", comment repenser cet impensé collectif ?
Allez-vous prendre le risque de voir nos toilettes différemment après cette soirée qui va défier les tabous pour parler pipi, caca, ressource, alimentation, système "alimentation-excression", comment repenser cet impensé collectif ?
Début de l'événement
05.06.2026 - 19:00
Fin de l'événement
05.06.2026 - 22:00
Adresse url
https://www.letreuil.fr
Adresse
148 chemin du treuil
Code postal
42330
Ville
Chamboeuf
Conférence et rencontre autour du livre "Une autre histoire des excréments" - 17 juin 2026
Description
A l'air du recyclage, il ne vous viendrait certainement pas à l'idée de jeter vos épluchures dans la poubelle à verre ou encore dans les toilettes ? Et pourtant c'est ce que l'on fait tous les jours avec nos excréments !
On jette à l'eau des ressources precieuses pour l'agriculture (et beaucoup d'eau potable au poassage). Mais cela n'a pas toujours été et ce n'est pas non plus une fatalité !
Comment repenser cet impensé collectif qu'est la gestion de nos excréments ?
Venez décrouvrir l'histoire (sans tabou) de nos excréments grâce à l'intervention de Fabien ESCULIER, médaillé de l’académie d’agriculture, diplômé de Polytechnique et chercheur, il dirige depuis 10 ans le laboratoire « eau environnement et systèmes urbains » de l’école nationale des Ponts et Chaussées, qui explore la valorisation agricole des urines et matières fécales.
On jette à l'eau des ressources precieuses pour l'agriculture (et beaucoup d'eau potable au poassage). Mais cela n'a pas toujours été et ce n'est pas non plus une fatalité !
Comment repenser cet impensé collectif qu'est la gestion de nos excréments ?
Venez décrouvrir l'histoire (sans tabou) de nos excréments grâce à l'intervention de Fabien ESCULIER, médaillé de l’académie d’agriculture, diplômé de Polytechnique et chercheur, il dirige depuis 10 ans le laboratoire « eau environnement et systèmes urbains » de l’école nationale des Ponts et Chaussées, qui explore la valorisation agricole des urines et matières fécales.
Début de l'événement
17.06.2026 - 19:00
Fin de l'événement
17.06.2026 - 22:00
Adresse url
https://www.letreuil.fr
Adresse
148 chemin du Treuil
Code postal
42330
Ville
Chamboeuf
Conférence « le Jeûne : au-delà des préjugés. Un outil efficace de santé et prévention? Premiers résultats de l’étude GENESIS »
Description
L'étude GENESIS a été conduite sur l’année 2021 au CHU de St Etienne et utilise l’Imagerie par Résonance Magnétique (IRM) pour apporter un éclairage nouveau et scientifique sur l’impact du jeune thérapeutique sur le corps.
L'équipe scientifique de GENESIS partagera ses résultats en avant-première avec vous, et vous proposera ensuite une discussion en présence du Pr Bogdan Galusca (spécialiste des troubles alimentaires et poids extrêmes (maigreure constitutionnelle extrême, obésité, anorexie)) et du Dr Robin ménage (Directeur scientifuque de la clinique Buchinger Wilhelmi, sépcialiste du microbiote).
Nous espérons vous proposer ainsi une soirée riche d’enseignement pluridisciplinaire sur une ressource de santé, disponible et mobilisable par chacun, et qui peut changer grandement une vie, le rapport à l’alimentation.
Dans un contexte de crise sociétale majeure, le science se doit d’aborder les enjeux de démocratie alimentaire et d'aider à conscientiser le levier majeur qu’est une alimentation saine pour changer le monde, prendre soin de notre santé et de celle de nos écosystèmes, intimement liées. Le jeûne est un moment clé pour penser et se ressourcer, questionner nos besoins et comprendre nos corps.
Conférence gratuite, public adolescent/adulte, durée : 1 heure. Suivie d'une discussion débat et d'un verre convivial « microbiote –friendly ».
Un événement organisé par le Collectif Transition Citoyenne 42 - CTC42, avec le soutien la participation des médecins et scientifiques de GENESIS au CHU de St Etienne, des laboratoires de recherche CREATIS et TAPE de l’université Jean Monnet.
Inscription obligatoire sur : https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSflIw4J51B1jfzQTV9jFICwqIW69yYd2ZPyIbU2dwC8Be0iLA/viewform
L'équipe scientifique de GENESIS partagera ses résultats en avant-première avec vous, et vous proposera ensuite une discussion en présence du Pr Bogdan Galusca (spécialiste des troubles alimentaires et poids extrêmes (maigreure constitutionnelle extrême, obésité, anorexie)) et du Dr Robin ménage (Directeur scientifuque de la clinique Buchinger Wilhelmi, sépcialiste du microbiote).
Nous espérons vous proposer ainsi une soirée riche d’enseignement pluridisciplinaire sur une ressource de santé, disponible et mobilisable par chacun, et qui peut changer grandement une vie, le rapport à l’alimentation.
Dans un contexte de crise sociétale majeure, le science se doit d’aborder les enjeux de démocratie alimentaire et d'aider à conscientiser le levier majeur qu’est une alimentation saine pour changer le monde, prendre soin de notre santé et de celle de nos écosystèmes, intimement liées. Le jeûne est un moment clé pour penser et se ressourcer, questionner nos besoins et comprendre nos corps.
Conférence gratuite, public adolescent/adulte, durée : 1 heure. Suivie d'une discussion débat et d'un verre convivial « microbiote –friendly ».
Un événement organisé par le Collectif Transition Citoyenne 42 - CTC42, avec le soutien la participation des médecins et scientifiques de GENESIS au CHU de St Etienne, des laboratoires de recherche CREATIS et TAPE de l’université Jean Monnet.
Inscription obligatoire sur : https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSflIw4J51B1jfzQTV9jFICwqIW69yYd2ZPyIbU2dwC8Be0iLA/viewform
Début de l'événement
26.09.2024 - 18:30
Fin de l'événement
26.09.2024 - 21:30
Adresse url
https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSflIw4J51B1jfzQTV9jFICwqIW69yYd2ZPyIbU2dwC8Be0iLA/viewform
Adresse
CAMPUS Santé Innovations, Amphi PERPOINT
Code postal
42000
Ville
Saint-Etienne
Conférence participative « Tissons une autre mode ». par Marie-Anne MENOUD
Description
A l'initiative du collectif "Groseille et Ciboulette"
À partir de l’analyse des processus de fabrication des principaux textiles (production de la matière première, filage, tissage, confection, transport) et de nos habitudes d’achat, nous comprenons les impacts économiques, sociaux, sanitaires et environnementaux qui ont accompagné la mondialisation de cette industrie.
Nous pouvons refaire de la production textile un outil de développement économique respectueux de notre santé et de l’environnement sur nos territoires.
À partir de l’analyse des processus de fabrication des principaux textiles (production de la matière première, filage, tissage, confection, transport) et de nos habitudes d’achat, nous comprenons les impacts économiques, sociaux, sanitaires et environnementaux qui ont accompagné la mondialisation de cette industrie.
Nous pouvons refaire de la production textile un outil de développement économique respectueux de notre santé et de l’environnement sur nos territoires.
Début de l'événement
16.12.2025 - 19:30
Fin de l'événement
16.12.2025 - 21:30
Adresse url
https://groseille-et-ciboulette.fr/
Adresse
salle Roger Planchon, 54 Bd Waldeck Rousseau,
Code postal
42400
Ville
SAINT-CHAMOND
Conférence sur l'humusation
Description
Si vous ne l'avez pas écoutée au derneir Salon Tatou Juste, ne manquez pas cette conférence de Florence Valdès, présidente de l'association Humusation-France, qui vous présentera cette alternative écologique à l'inhumation et à la crémation, non encore légalisée en France.
Début de l'événement
20.02.2026 - 18:30
Fin de l'événement
20.02.2026 - 20:00
Adresse url
https://humusationfrance.org/
Adresse
Le Treuil
Code postal
42330
Ville
CHAMBOEUF
Dear Typical Female, your online dating profile sucks!
Description
Can You Date A Younger Man?
The Qualities Of A Good Make Out Buddy
When Guys Should Pay On A Date And Why
Playing Games When Dating
How to Hit on Someone via Facebook
What Not To Say On A First Date?
Why Hasn't He Called and What Should I Do About It?
Getting Prepped for a First Date
Defriending Your Ex On Facebook
This is a message I wrote to someone I found on http://www.okcupid.com who intentionally avoided writing about herself because, "Where's the fun in that, you wont have anything to ask me".
No offense, but your profile is pretty terrible. I have an exercise you should perform: Read your own profile as if someone else wrote it and see if you can come up with an interesting message to write to yourself.
Hint: It's pretty difficult to start a meaningful conversation about incubus, bananas, or hanging out with your friends every Friday. With that in mind, the only thing that would motivate a guy to message you is how attractive they think you are.
Those that think you're ugly won't write. Those that think you're average might write. Those that think you're attractive will write. But one thing's for sure: No one will write because they think you've got character or personality. In fact, their first impression is exactly the opposite! Ironically, it's the guys that DO message you that you want to avoid more than any other. They're the ones guaranteed to only like you for your looks and think your personality is irrelevant.
PS: I like bananas, too! Discuss.
The Qualities Of A Good Make Out Buddy
When Guys Should Pay On A Date And Why
Playing Games When Dating
How to Hit on Someone via Facebook
What Not To Say On A First Date?
Why Hasn't He Called and What Should I Do About It?
Getting Prepped for a First Date
Defriending Your Ex On Facebook
This is a message I wrote to someone I found on http://www.okcupid.com who intentionally avoided writing about herself because, "Where's the fun in that, you wont have anything to ask me".
No offense, but your profile is pretty terrible. I have an exercise you should perform: Read your own profile as if someone else wrote it and see if you can come up with an interesting message to write to yourself.
Hint: It's pretty difficult to start a meaningful conversation about incubus, bananas, or hanging out with your friends every Friday. With that in mind, the only thing that would motivate a guy to message you is how attractive they think you are.
Those that think you're ugly won't write. Those that think you're average might write. Those that think you're attractive will write. But one thing's for sure: No one will write because they think you've got character or personality. In fact, their first impression is exactly the opposite! Ironically, it's the guys that DO message you that you want to avoid more than any other. They're the ones guaranteed to only like you for your looks and think your personality is irrelevant.
PS: I like bananas, too! Discuss.
Début de l'événement
30.01.2021
Fin de l'événement
30.01.2021
Démocratie sans violence
Description
Venez participer à un débat mouvant animé par le Mouvement pour une Alternative Non Violente suivi d'un apéro-concert.
Inscription par mail à man.stetienne@nonviolence.fr
TOUT PUBLIC
Inscription par mail à man.stetienne@nonviolence.fr
TOUT PUBLIC
Début de l'événement
28.09.2024 - 18:00
Fin de l'événement
28.09.2024 - 20:00
Adresse url
http://csm.montbrison42.fr/
Adresse
Place Pasteur
Code postal
42600
Ville
Montbrison
Docu-livre-discussion "Caméras sous surveillance" / Entrée à prix libre
Description
Soirée Halte au contrôle numérique
- Le reportage vidéo : « SOUS SURVEILLANCE » a été réalisé par des étudiants de l’École des Mines. Il suscite la discussion.
- Il sera suivi et complété par une présentation du livre « CAMÉRAS SOUS SURVEILLANCE ». Lutte contre l'oeil électronique » écrit par Martin Drago (La Quadrature du Net) ... pour enrichir le débat.
« Pour garantir la sécurité et la stabilité dans la continuité, la République sera bientôt réorganisée et deviendra la première puissance galactique impériale pour une société fondée sur l’ordre et la sécurité. » (Empereur Palpatine / Stars War)
- Le reportage vidéo : « SOUS SURVEILLANCE » a été réalisé par des étudiants de l’École des Mines. Il suscite la discussion.
- Il sera suivi et complété par une présentation du livre « CAMÉRAS SOUS SURVEILLANCE ». Lutte contre l'oeil électronique » écrit par Martin Drago (La Quadrature du Net) ... pour enrichir le débat.
« Pour garantir la sécurité et la stabilité dans la continuité, la République sera bientôt réorganisée et deviendra la première puissance galactique impériale pour une société fondée sur l’ordre et la sécurité. » (Empereur Palpatine / Stars War)
Début de l'événement
03.02.2026 - 18:30
Fin de l'événement
03.02.2026 - 20:30
Fichier : SoireeSURVEILLANCE.pdf
Télécharger
Adresse
Cinéma Le Méliès Saint-François 8 rue de la Valse
Code postal
42100
Ville
Saint-Etienne
Festival du Bien commun
Description
Les algorithmes et les cabinets de conseil ont-ils remplacé les fonctionnaires ?
Qui pour prendre soin de l’hôpital public ?
A-t-on entendu les demandes des Gilets jaunes ?
De quels services publics aurons-nous besoin demain ?
Le temps d’un week-end, chercheur·euses, artistes et citoyen·nes engagé·es mettent sur la table ce sujet au cœur de nos sociétés et de nos démocraties, pour tenter de reprendre ensemble les chemins du “public”.
Cette première édition du festival Bien commun affirme l’urgence à défendre nos services publics, au service des citoyen·nes et de l’intérêt général.
Ce temps fort a été imaginé et construit avec Stéphanie Hennette-Vauchez, Antoine Vauchez (complices de la saison culturelle 2025-2026) et Olivier Leclerc.
https://www.chateaudegoutelas.fr/bien-commun/
Qui pour prendre soin de l’hôpital public ?
A-t-on entendu les demandes des Gilets jaunes ?
De quels services publics aurons-nous besoin demain ?
Le temps d’un week-end, chercheur·euses, artistes et citoyen·nes engagé·es mettent sur la table ce sujet au cœur de nos sociétés et de nos démocraties, pour tenter de reprendre ensemble les chemins du “public”.
Cette première édition du festival Bien commun affirme l’urgence à défendre nos services publics, au service des citoyen·nes et de l’intérêt général.
Ce temps fort a été imaginé et construit avec Stéphanie Hennette-Vauchez, Antoine Vauchez (complices de la saison culturelle 2025-2026) et Olivier Leclerc.
https://www.chateaudegoutelas.fr/bien-commun/
Début de l'événement
06.12.2025
Fin de l'événement
07.12.2025
Adresse url
https://www.chateaudegoutelas.fr/bien-commun/
Adresse
277 route de Goutelas
Code postal
42130
Ville
Marcoux
Festival Groseille et Ciboulette
Description
Festival des initiatives locales et positives: Osons ensemble les transformations pour une terre de vie et de liens.
Programme sur: https://groseille-et-ciboulette.fr
Festival gratuit ouvert à toutes et tous!
Programme sur: https://groseille-et-ciboulette.fr
Festival gratuit ouvert à toutes et tous!
Début de l'événement
01.09.2024
Fin de l'événement
01.09.2024
Adresse url
https://groseille-et-ciboulette.fr
Adresse
Esplanade Roger Planchon
Code postal
42400
Ville
Saint-Chamond
Film Débat AXOMAMA
Description
La pomme de terre est le troisième aliment dans le monde avec 3 500 variétés et des dizaines de manières de la cuisiner. La vocation du film, éminemment positive est d’ouvrir une fenêtre de réflexion sur l’importance et la beauté de la biodiversité.
Dans le cadre de la Fête des Possibles, le débat sera animé par Jean-Louis Gonterre.
Événement co-organisé avec le cinéma Le Meliès
Dans le cadre de la Fête des Possibles, le débat sera animé par Jean-Louis Gonterre.
Événement co-organisé avec le cinéma Le Meliès
Début de l'événement
20.09.2024 - 20:30
Fin de l'événement
20.09.2024 - 22:30
Adresse
Cinéma le Mélies Saint François, 8 rue de la Valse
Code postal
42000
Ville
Saint Etienne
find your next mommy and watch for your next partner.
Description
He Cheats on Me During Business Trips
He Cheated with a Woman from the Gym
He Dotes On His Son and Ignores Me
He Didn't Know How to Listen to Her
He Flirts Too Much
Marriage Advice: 13 Lessons
Separate Vacations Don’t Have to Mean Divorce
Are Soul Mates Fact or Fiction?
Love vs. Parenthood: When the Perfect Partner Doesn’t Want Kids
Caring for Dad Is Destroying My Marriage
First Date: Who Pays and What It Really Means
Dating a Dad: When You Like Him But Not His Kid
The funny part is he now makes more money than I do and I still don’t let him pay for things. I want to contribute too. And I do because he helped establish our mutually respectful relationship right from the start.
Cali, I think you were being respectful- just as this douche should have done with you. You just got done paying for a $125 meal. The next meal should have been on him- no question. He’s not good enough for you and neither is any man who argues your point. You deserve to feel taken care of- loved, safe and respected- while still feeling self empowered and strong.
It’s easy guys. Seriously. Grow a pair and stop trying to find your next mommy and watch for your next partner.
xo
Reply
Cali Bradshaw
March 22, 2011 at 5:04 am #
Dear Miss RB – Thanks very much for your comment. So great to hear the perspective of someone who is happily married! I think your comment explains the entire situation perfectly. The truth is, when a guy really likes you (like enough to one day marry you) he WANTS to take care of you. All the other bullshit stops mattering. Whether he has the money, whether he thinks it is an unfair/outdated rule – none of it matters. A guy who really likes you, wants to take care of you AND the result is a very happy girl. Like I want to spend the rest of my life with you happy. Thanks so much for your comment and your support.
-Cali
He Cheated with a Woman from the Gym
He Dotes On His Son and Ignores Me
He Didn't Know How to Listen to Her
He Flirts Too Much
Marriage Advice: 13 Lessons
Separate Vacations Don’t Have to Mean Divorce
Are Soul Mates Fact or Fiction?
Love vs. Parenthood: When the Perfect Partner Doesn’t Want Kids
Caring for Dad Is Destroying My Marriage
First Date: Who Pays and What It Really Means
Dating a Dad: When You Like Him But Not His Kid
The funny part is he now makes more money than I do and I still don’t let him pay for things. I want to contribute too. And I do because he helped establish our mutually respectful relationship right from the start.
Cali, I think you were being respectful- just as this douche should have done with you. You just got done paying for a $125 meal. The next meal should have been on him- no question. He’s not good enough for you and neither is any man who argues your point. You deserve to feel taken care of- loved, safe and respected- while still feeling self empowered and strong.
It’s easy guys. Seriously. Grow a pair and stop trying to find your next mommy and watch for your next partner.
xo
Reply
Cali Bradshaw
March 22, 2011 at 5:04 am #
Dear Miss RB – Thanks very much for your comment. So great to hear the perspective of someone who is happily married! I think your comment explains the entire situation perfectly. The truth is, when a guy really likes you (like enough to one day marry you) he WANTS to take care of you. All the other bullshit stops mattering. Whether he has the money, whether he thinks it is an unfair/outdated rule – none of it matters. A guy who really likes you, wants to take care of you AND the result is a very happy girl. Like I want to spend the rest of my life with you happy. Thanks so much for your comment and your support.
-Cali
Début de l'événement
17.03.2022
Fin de l'événement
17.03.2022
Formation Palestine proposée par SUD EDUCATION
Description
Ouverte à tous et toutes, salarié.e.s ou pas. Inscription à sudeducationloire@proton.me
Début de l'événement
22.01.2026 - 09:00
Fin de l'événement
23.01.2026 - 17:00
Adresse
rue vaillant couturier, AL TARDY
Code postal
42
Ville
SAINT-ETIENNE
Fresque de la Monnaie
Description
Dans le cadre de la Semaine Nationale des Monnaies Locales, le LIEN - monnaie locale du bassin ligérien - vous invite à participer à une Fresque de la Monnaie. Cette Fresque de la Monnaie permet aux participant.e.s de comprendre la monnaie, son histoire, la notion de création monétaire et les alternatives aux fragilités de l'économie. Ces thématiques seront abordées par les participant.e.s pendant 3h riches en découvertes et en échanges !
Nous pourrons ensuite poursuivre nos réflexions autour d'un verre et de quelques grignotages.
Rendez-vous au local associatif du 2 rue des Arts à Saint-Etienne.
Atelier ouvert à toute personne intéressée par les enjeux monétaires.
Pour plus d'informations, contactez Corinne (animatrice de la Fresque) au 0673643628.
Inscriptions par sms. Limité à 10 participant.es.
Prenez vite vos places !
Nous pourrons ensuite poursuivre nos réflexions autour d'un verre et de quelques grignotages.
Rendez-vous au local associatif du 2 rue des Arts à Saint-Etienne.
Atelier ouvert à toute personne intéressée par les enjeux monétaires.
Pour plus d'informations, contactez Corinne (animatrice de la Fresque) au 0673643628.
Inscriptions par sms. Limité à 10 participant.es.
Prenez vite vos places !
Début de l'événement
10.10.2024 - 18:00
Fin de l'événement
10.10.2024 - 21:00
Adresse url
https://lelien42.org
Adresse
2 rue des arts
Code postal
42000
Ville
Saint-Etienne
How to Become an Online Dating Pro
Description
A Relationship Evolved (and Happy Birthday To My Ex)
The Unforgettable First Kiss
Jealousy Versus Envy
Love Addict: The Pregnancy Dilemma
How Do You Help Someone Who Doesn’t Want Help?
Most Radical Relationship Books On the Market
We Hold Ourselves Back
What Happens When You Actually In Relationship??
Is a Same-Sex Encounter Important in Living Holistically?
You’re a Selfish Bitch and That’s Why You’re Not Married
Learning How to Love Yourself
Love Addict: Writing the Personal
How Do You Learn to Let Go?
Of the many different types of game, Online Game (dating) is unique because it requires a significant amount of preparation and upkeep in order to be successful. Here are some of the required skills, qualities, and methods that you should strive to achieve and master:
Excellent Grammar & Spelling
High Quality, Exotic, and/or Unique & Interesting Photos
Average or Above in Physical Looks* (face) and Physique (body)
Well-written, Stand-Out, Cool, Interesting, Funny, Exciting, and/or Mysterious Profile
Great Logistics (99% of encounters are dates w/ the occasional “bang-over”)
Clever, Funny, Pre-Tailored Opener or Creative, Custom Stand-Out Opener
Date Game (communication/escalation/seduction/closing skill)
Excellent Screening Ability & Strategy to determine the type of girls you’re seeking
Ability to Weed Out Potential Flakes, Attention Whores, Secret Internet Fatties, and Prudes
Online Communication Skills (witty banter, intelligence, travel experience, articulating stories, etc.)
Balance between cocky/funny and over-the-top asshole (messaging, profile, and in-person)
Ability to meet (or exceed) women’s online perceptions of you in-person
*Obviously this is largely out of your control… but there are things you can do to tweak your look (style, hair, etc.).
The pool of women to choose from is constantly changing, as thousands of people enter and exit the online dating world everyday. Just don’t expect amazing results overnight. Like anything, it won’t be easy and takes a lot of practice to master. Luckily, the learning curve is significantly reduced when you know what needs to be done.
Learn what works, test out different profile styles and pictures, and keep tweaking until you figure out what gives you the best results. Regular game will take you the rest of the way.
Of course, I’ll be covering all of these topics and more in my online game book, slated for release sometime next year.
Good luck.
The Unforgettable First Kiss
Jealousy Versus Envy
Love Addict: The Pregnancy Dilemma
How Do You Help Someone Who Doesn’t Want Help?
Most Radical Relationship Books On the Market
We Hold Ourselves Back
What Happens When You Actually In Relationship??
Is a Same-Sex Encounter Important in Living Holistically?
You’re a Selfish Bitch and That’s Why You’re Not Married
Learning How to Love Yourself
Love Addict: Writing the Personal
How Do You Learn to Let Go?
Of the many different types of game, Online Game (dating) is unique because it requires a significant amount of preparation and upkeep in order to be successful. Here are some of the required skills, qualities, and methods that you should strive to achieve and master:
Excellent Grammar & Spelling
High Quality, Exotic, and/or Unique & Interesting Photos
Average or Above in Physical Looks* (face) and Physique (body)
Well-written, Stand-Out, Cool, Interesting, Funny, Exciting, and/or Mysterious Profile
Great Logistics (99% of encounters are dates w/ the occasional “bang-over”)
Clever, Funny, Pre-Tailored Opener or Creative, Custom Stand-Out Opener
Date Game (communication/escalation/seduction/closing skill)
Excellent Screening Ability & Strategy to determine the type of girls you’re seeking
Ability to Weed Out Potential Flakes, Attention Whores, Secret Internet Fatties, and Prudes
Online Communication Skills (witty banter, intelligence, travel experience, articulating stories, etc.)
Balance between cocky/funny and over-the-top asshole (messaging, profile, and in-person)
Ability to meet (or exceed) women’s online perceptions of you in-person
*Obviously this is largely out of your control… but there are things you can do to tweak your look (style, hair, etc.).
The pool of women to choose from is constantly changing, as thousands of people enter and exit the online dating world everyday. Just don’t expect amazing results overnight. Like anything, it won’t be easy and takes a lot of practice to master. Luckily, the learning curve is significantly reduced when you know what needs to be done.
Learn what works, test out different profile styles and pictures, and keep tweaking until you figure out what gives you the best results. Regular game will take you the rest of the way.
Of course, I’ll be covering all of these topics and more in my online game book, slated for release sometime next year.
Good luck.
Début de l'événement
16.01.2022
Fin de l'événement
16.01.2022
Ida, spectacle conté musical
Description
Ida l'ogresse se réveille un lendemain de fête. Une enquête en musiques dans les mémoires déjantées d'une ogresse qui se méfie de son ventre....
http://www.zoriamoine.com/
Au Théâtre des Trois Coups, Amicale Laïque de Villeboeuf, 9 rue Horace Vernet à Saint-Etienne
Avec Rodolphe Le Riche et Zoria Moine : conte et voix
Cécile Godart : piano et accordéon
Cécile Verant : violon
Joseph Dubreuil : guitare et piano
Pour adolescents et adultes
Durée : 1 heure
http://www.zoriamoine.com/
Au Théâtre des Trois Coups, Amicale Laïque de Villeboeuf, 9 rue Horace Vernet à Saint-Etienne
Avec Rodolphe Le Riche et Zoria Moine : conte et voix
Cécile Godart : piano et accordéon
Cécile Verant : violon
Joseph Dubreuil : guitare et piano
Pour adolescents et adultes
Durée : 1 heure
Début de l'événement
13.09.2024 - 20:00
Fin de l'événement
13.09.2024 - 21:00
Adresse url
https://www.zoriamoine.com
Adresse
Théatre Les Trois Coups, 9 Rue Horace Vernet
Code postal
42000
Ville
Saint-Etienne
I quit a few months after I met them an I would eventually marry.
Description
Why Sex Talk On a First Date Is a Bad Idea
Is He Interested or Just An Attention Whore?
Never Give a Man More Credit Then He’s Earned
Stop Accepting Bad Behavior From Men
When Do You Ask A Guy If Things Are Serious?
Is She Doomed To End Up Alone?
Why The “Hot” People In This Article Aren’t Worth Dating
When You Get Dumped Sometimes You’re To Blame, Too
Never Double Down On A Guy Who Can’t Guarantee He’ll Stick Around
How To Deal With The Push Pull Guy
Who Has More Luck Online – Men or Women?
The Tell Tale Tatt
Lisa Says:
April 4th, 2014 at 11:29 am
I quit a few months after I met them an I would eventually marry.
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Jim Says:
April 18th, 2015 at 10:28 pm
Here’s a sad revelation: I eventually got married because of an ultimatum. I had been seeing (and eventually living with) this woman for 5 years and was told it’s the ring or the highway. I never felt she was the “love of my life” or my “soul mate”, but I did love her, we got along great, and I wanted children so it made sense at the time.
Fast-forward 8 years and I’m in the middle of a divorce. Was it wrong to marry someone I wasn’t “100% certain” was the one for me? I don’t know, I ended up with 2 awesome children and although divorce is horrific I feel that I (and my kids) will be much better when it’s over.
With respect to the smoking argument, my wife agreed to quit smoking when we had our first child. After the second child, 4 years later, she decided to start again because “I was stressing her out and making her crazy”. I hated it and pleaded with her to stop, for the sake of the kids, for her own health, for our intimacy, because of the added financial strain. I was accused of “trying to bring the kids into it”.
In the end she refused to quit, saying that “I knew she smoked” when we got married. It definitely isn’t THE reason we’re getting divorced, but finding ashes strewn around the car she uses to drive our children around was definitely one big nail in the coffin. Kill yourself if you need to, I may have to suck it up because of my choices, but when you put my kids at risk you’ve put yourself on shaky, and ultimately un-sound, ground.
I arrive at the Lower East Side bar about an hour into the soiree. By then, everyone there had consumed at least one cocktail and had loosened up. I decided to use the knowledge I’d gleaned from a Whiskey tasting a few weeks before and ordered a finger’s worth of Johnnie Walker on the rocks. Normally, I’d order a Merlot and nurse it, but it was a holiday weekend and I’d given myself permission to slack off.
Is He Interested or Just An Attention Whore?
Never Give a Man More Credit Then He’s Earned
Stop Accepting Bad Behavior From Men
When Do You Ask A Guy If Things Are Serious?
Is She Doomed To End Up Alone?
Why The “Hot” People In This Article Aren’t Worth Dating
When You Get Dumped Sometimes You’re To Blame, Too
Never Double Down On A Guy Who Can’t Guarantee He’ll Stick Around
How To Deal With The Push Pull Guy
Who Has More Luck Online – Men or Women?
The Tell Tale Tatt
Lisa Says:
April 4th, 2014 at 11:29 am
I quit a few months after I met them an I would eventually marry.
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Jim Says:
April 18th, 2015 at 10:28 pm
Here’s a sad revelation: I eventually got married because of an ultimatum. I had been seeing (and eventually living with) this woman for 5 years and was told it’s the ring or the highway. I never felt she was the “love of my life” or my “soul mate”, but I did love her, we got along great, and I wanted children so it made sense at the time.
Fast-forward 8 years and I’m in the middle of a divorce. Was it wrong to marry someone I wasn’t “100% certain” was the one for me? I don’t know, I ended up with 2 awesome children and although divorce is horrific I feel that I (and my kids) will be much better when it’s over.
With respect to the smoking argument, my wife agreed to quit smoking when we had our first child. After the second child, 4 years later, she decided to start again because “I was stressing her out and making her crazy”. I hated it and pleaded with her to stop, for the sake of the kids, for her own health, for our intimacy, because of the added financial strain. I was accused of “trying to bring the kids into it”.
In the end she refused to quit, saying that “I knew she smoked” when we got married. It definitely isn’t THE reason we’re getting divorced, but finding ashes strewn around the car she uses to drive our children around was definitely one big nail in the coffin. Kill yourself if you need to, I may have to suck it up because of my choices, but when you put my kids at risk you’ve put yourself on shaky, and ultimately un-sound, ground.
I arrive at the Lower East Side bar about an hour into the soiree. By then, everyone there had consumed at least one cocktail and had loosened up. I decided to use the knowledge I’d gleaned from a Whiskey tasting a few weeks before and ordered a finger’s worth of Johnnie Walker on the rocks. Normally, I’d order a Merlot and nurse it, but it was a holiday weekend and I’d given myself permission to slack off.
Début de l'événement
19.02.2022
Fin de l'événement
19.02.2022
Keeping the Peace: Hilarious Solutions to Everyday Relationship Annoyances
Description
With Men Is EVERYTHING Always Just Really About Sex?
Interracial Dating: A Day in Detroit's Gaze
When Being Nice Sabotages Your Relationships
The Art of Compromise in Relationships
What Dating Game Says About Women
The Unspoken Rules of Dating Reciprocity
Dating and The Church
Faithful Dating in Modern Times
Can You Really Be a Relationship Expert?
Why All Relationship Advice Is Bullsh*t
Why Finding The “Right One” Is All About Luck
Huh? What the f*ck does that mean? Why would you do that. I shut my service off in June and you ran me a tab for July anyway? Why does this make sense. Actually, who gives a f*ck, could you please take care of it.
Her reply? Well, sir, I think you should go ahead and pay the bill and IF WE OWE YOU A REFUND, WE’LL SEND IT TO YOU.
Scrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.
So let me get this right. You want me to pay for service that I didn’t use, at a place I no longer live, for an account that I shut down over a month ago…and IF YOU OWE ME A REFUND, YOU’LL SEND IT TO ME??? This makes sense to you?
Her: Sir, I realize it may sound a little odd, but that’s my recommendation.
Me: Ma’am, I need you to say that out loud to me. What you just told me to do. I need you to say it, in that order THEN tell me it makes sense coming from your mouth. You see where I closed the account right?
Her: Yes sir, and I understand, but that’s the only way to avoid going to collection.
Me: (at this point, I’ve reached boiling point, extinction level event) You’re threatening my credit right now when you all are the ones who have TOTALLY screwed up here? And you want me to wait for a refund? Wait…you all ALREADY OWE me a refund on this account. Can you see it?
This is August remember, still short of my 6-8 week timeframe, but August.
Her: No sir, it shows here that you owe us $400.
Me: Yo, there is no way in f*ck I’m paying that money when YOU have proof in your system that I closed the account.
Interracial Dating: A Day in Detroit's Gaze
When Being Nice Sabotages Your Relationships
The Art of Compromise in Relationships
What Dating Game Says About Women
The Unspoken Rules of Dating Reciprocity
Dating and The Church
Faithful Dating in Modern Times
Can You Really Be a Relationship Expert?
Why All Relationship Advice Is Bullsh*t
Why Finding The “Right One” Is All About Luck
Huh? What the f*ck does that mean? Why would you do that. I shut my service off in June and you ran me a tab for July anyway? Why does this make sense. Actually, who gives a f*ck, could you please take care of it.
Her reply? Well, sir, I think you should go ahead and pay the bill and IF WE OWE YOU A REFUND, WE’LL SEND IT TO YOU.
Scrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.
So let me get this right. You want me to pay for service that I didn’t use, at a place I no longer live, for an account that I shut down over a month ago…and IF YOU OWE ME A REFUND, YOU’LL SEND IT TO ME??? This makes sense to you?
Her: Sir, I realize it may sound a little odd, but that’s my recommendation.
Me: Ma’am, I need you to say that out loud to me. What you just told me to do. I need you to say it, in that order THEN tell me it makes sense coming from your mouth. You see where I closed the account right?
Her: Yes sir, and I understand, but that’s the only way to avoid going to collection.
Me: (at this point, I’ve reached boiling point, extinction level event) You’re threatening my credit right now when you all are the ones who have TOTALLY screwed up here? And you want me to wait for a refund? Wait…you all ALREADY OWE me a refund on this account. Can you see it?
This is August remember, still short of my 6-8 week timeframe, but August.
Her: No sir, it shows here that you owe us $400.
Me: Yo, there is no way in f*ck I’m paying that money when YOU have proof in your system that I closed the account.
Début de l'événement
22.11.2024
Fin de l'événement
22.11.2022
La Vida Vegas
Description
We Lived Separate Lives
We Were Living Like Roommates
The Real Reason You Haven't Found Your Perfect Partner
Why Aren't You Married? Facing Your Love Alibi
Ever Have A False Positive In Dating?
When Love Manifestation Turns Into Mani-Frustration
Are You Discounting Yourself In Love?
Ordering Love Like A Latte
Looking For A Quick Fix For Your Love Life?
Impatient for Mr. Right?
Let me give you some highlights from the remainder of Vegas.
I put $20 into a slot machine and won $345. I cashed out quickly and held onto it for dear life. Love Vegas I do, but a gambler I am not.
QTMama gave me some advice on why I seem not to be attracting men in bars. I took her advice and promptly got molested by a short Hawaiian dude. Short dude asked me in the middle of a loud crowded bar, “Are you a sexual person?” I did not answer. A few minutes later, QTMama was called in to rescue me. This is what I get for taking advice.
Even after the debacle of drunkenness that was Thursday night/Friday morning, I was oddly not slowed down in my drinking at all. Not once on this entire trip did I get a hangover. And after that night I did not throw up again. I believe my liver is actually angry now because I haven’t had a single drink since I got back. I should look into solving that.
Folks, there was a whole lot more booze. QTMama and I would go out at night and not get home until it was light again the next morning. Vegas will forever be partying all night and endless alcohol in my mind. And I fully intend to prove that if/when I ever go back.
And here’s the last thing. On Sunday, QTMama and I got ready to go back home. We packed and chatted and laughed and generally tried to ignore the fact that we were preparing to leave. I feel safe speaking for her for just a moment to say that we both had an absolutely amazing time. And not just because of Vegas baby! And not just because of the booze. We both made a fast and strong friendship that weekend. I am not ashamed to say I got a little teary as we said our goodbyes.
So when do we go back???
We Were Living Like Roommates
The Real Reason You Haven't Found Your Perfect Partner
Why Aren't You Married? Facing Your Love Alibi
Ever Have A False Positive In Dating?
When Love Manifestation Turns Into Mani-Frustration
Are You Discounting Yourself In Love?
Ordering Love Like A Latte
Looking For A Quick Fix For Your Love Life?
Impatient for Mr. Right?
Let me give you some highlights from the remainder of Vegas.
I put $20 into a slot machine and won $345. I cashed out quickly and held onto it for dear life. Love Vegas I do, but a gambler I am not.
QTMama gave me some advice on why I seem not to be attracting men in bars. I took her advice and promptly got molested by a short Hawaiian dude. Short dude asked me in the middle of a loud crowded bar, “Are you a sexual person?” I did not answer. A few minutes later, QTMama was called in to rescue me. This is what I get for taking advice.
Even after the debacle of drunkenness that was Thursday night/Friday morning, I was oddly not slowed down in my drinking at all. Not once on this entire trip did I get a hangover. And after that night I did not throw up again. I believe my liver is actually angry now because I haven’t had a single drink since I got back. I should look into solving that.
Folks, there was a whole lot more booze. QTMama and I would go out at night and not get home until it was light again the next morning. Vegas will forever be partying all night and endless alcohol in my mind. And I fully intend to prove that if/when I ever go back.
And here’s the last thing. On Sunday, QTMama and I got ready to go back home. We packed and chatted and laughed and generally tried to ignore the fact that we were preparing to leave. I feel safe speaking for her for just a moment to say that we both had an absolutely amazing time. And not just because of Vegas baby! And not just because of the booze. We both made a fast and strong friendship that weekend. I am not ashamed to say I got a little teary as we said our goodbyes.
So when do we go back???
Début de l'événement
15.04.2023
Fin de l'événement
15.04.2023
Le bilan carbone de mon assiette
Description
Atelier pour les enfants de 9 à 11 ans afin de découvrir l'emprunte carbone des aliments qui composent nos assiettes.
Lieu: Supermarché coopératif La Fourmilière.
Inscription au 09 54 13 49 78.
Lieu: Supermarché coopératif La Fourmilière.
Inscription au 09 54 13 49 78.
Début de l'événement
02.10.2024 - 14:00
Fin de l'événement
02.10.2024 - 17:00
Adresse url
https://coop-lafourmiliere.fr
Adresse
rue louis chaize
Code postal
42000
Ville
Saint-Etienne
Men Are The New Women
Description
An Ode to Emily
More Than Meets The Eyes
Should I Tell Her How I Feel?
The Play Date
Dogs, Cats, and the Art of Dating: Lessons from the Cab Ride
The Colorado Connection That Could Never Be
When Love Feels Like a DIY Project: The Fixer-Upper Dilemma
Why Men Marry Some Women and Not Others
Should You Settle?
Is There Hope For The Gender Gap?
Cheating is a Cop Out
The Dance of Second Chances
“Nobody knows what the hell they’re supposed to be doing anymore.”
- Jennifer Armstrong
“I never let myself develop a set of balls. Or rather society stifled my balls. … Neutered; that’s how society prefers its men today.”
- Paresh Kumar
Are Men the new Women? Are more and more men taking on traditionally feminine gender roles?
The phrase “Men are the New Women” comes from Leah, the founder of the streetwear designer label Married to the MOB (Most Official Bitches). In an interview, she explains what that phrase means. Basically: some men are now wusses.
So is it true? Men taking on traditionally feminine gender roles and becoming wusses?
I asked a few friends and looked online for some opinions. Here’’s what I gathered:
“OMG they totally are! All the guys I”ve been meeting are SUCH wusses!” - SW
“I don”t know about all guys, but [my friend] is a hot stud AND such a girl at the same time. He even called once to talk about his feelings and how we can communicate better.” - NK
“Just look at my gay boyfriend for your answer. What do you think?” - LE
“Maybe it’’s the whole metrosexual craze that’’s turning men into women. Personally, I love it. Sensitive men are so much better than the deadbeats I”ve been dating.” - AB
“If you mean something like metros, ugh, I can”t stand that. Give me a real man any day.” - EL
“Yup, some guys are definitely turning into pussies now. Makes the rest of us real men that much more desirable to women, if you ask me. That’’s why I”ve got so many dates nowadays.” - BW
“I don”t want to have to ask a guy out. I like it when a guy asks me out. It shows… I don”t know… It shows that he’’s a man.” - LL
“More and more guys are talking about commitment, biological clocks, and—ugh—their feelings.” - JA
“In fact, not so long ago, I actually heard a boy tell me, ”Not tonight, I have a headache.” Seriously? SERIOUSLY? You’re taking this away from us?” - EM
“The new fall season [of TV] shrinks the number of belittling stereotypes [that men] may occupy to just two: cads or dads.” - AS
“In China, Shanghai men are well known as ”Pa Lao Po”, which means ”afraid of wives”. Shanghai women are the dominant ones in the family.” - 8A
Sounds like a resounding YES from the sources I”ve found. Men certainly are the new women - at least some of them. What do you think?
More Than Meets The Eyes
Should I Tell Her How I Feel?
The Play Date
Dogs, Cats, and the Art of Dating: Lessons from the Cab Ride
The Colorado Connection That Could Never Be
When Love Feels Like a DIY Project: The Fixer-Upper Dilemma
Why Men Marry Some Women and Not Others
Should You Settle?
Is There Hope For The Gender Gap?
Cheating is a Cop Out
The Dance of Second Chances
“Nobody knows what the hell they’re supposed to be doing anymore.”
- Jennifer Armstrong
“I never let myself develop a set of balls. Or rather society stifled my balls. … Neutered; that’s how society prefers its men today.”
- Paresh Kumar
Are Men the new Women? Are more and more men taking on traditionally feminine gender roles?
The phrase “Men are the New Women” comes from Leah, the founder of the streetwear designer label Married to the MOB (Most Official Bitches). In an interview, she explains what that phrase means. Basically: some men are now wusses.
So is it true? Men taking on traditionally feminine gender roles and becoming wusses?
I asked a few friends and looked online for some opinions. Here’’s what I gathered:
“OMG they totally are! All the guys I”ve been meeting are SUCH wusses!” - SW
“I don”t know about all guys, but [my friend] is a hot stud AND such a girl at the same time. He even called once to talk about his feelings and how we can communicate better.” - NK
“Just look at my gay boyfriend for your answer. What do you think?” - LE
“Maybe it’’s the whole metrosexual craze that’’s turning men into women. Personally, I love it. Sensitive men are so much better than the deadbeats I”ve been dating.” - AB
“If you mean something like metros, ugh, I can”t stand that. Give me a real man any day.” - EL
“Yup, some guys are definitely turning into pussies now. Makes the rest of us real men that much more desirable to women, if you ask me. That’’s why I”ve got so many dates nowadays.” - BW
“I don”t want to have to ask a guy out. I like it when a guy asks me out. It shows… I don”t know… It shows that he’’s a man.” - LL
“More and more guys are talking about commitment, biological clocks, and—ugh—their feelings.” - JA
“In fact, not so long ago, I actually heard a boy tell me, ”Not tonight, I have a headache.” Seriously? SERIOUSLY? You’re taking this away from us?” - EM
“The new fall season [of TV] shrinks the number of belittling stereotypes [that men] may occupy to just two: cads or dads.” - AS
“In China, Shanghai men are well known as ”Pa Lao Po”, which means ”afraid of wives”. Shanghai women are the dominant ones in the family.” - 8A
Sounds like a resounding YES from the sources I”ve found. Men certainly are the new women - at least some of them. What do you think?
Début de l'événement
08.01.2023
Fin de l'événement
08.01.2023
Ms. Fading Failure
Description
How a Meddling Mother Nearly Ruined My Marriage
How We Rebuilt Our Marriage Through Therapy
Saving a Marriage After an Affair
Can Marriage Survive Infidelity?
Is Your Marriage a Partnership or a Prison?
Keep Him From Walking Out That Door
Managing Expectations in Dating
Why I Believe In Marriage
Dating Advice From Happily Married Couples
The Man or the Money
Walk Away From Parental Control in Relationships
When You’re Stuck in the “Casual Dating” Zone
A Necessary Courtesy or Just Overkill in Online Dating?
Oh boy. “The Fade.”
The infamous Fade has been a staple of human dating rituals since… gosh, it doesn’t really matter. You know what I’m talking about. Boy meets girl. Boy goes on date(s) with girl. Boy realizes that he is not into girl. Boy doesn’t call girl. Girl may attempt contact with boy. Boy ignores and fades into nothing. Girl eats caramels and moves on. The end.
www.nataliedee.com
I’ve been faded many a time in my life. I’ve even done some fading myself. The Fade is an established social convention indicating at least one party’s lack of interest in the other.
However, I’m not sure that all Parisian men are as familiar with the Fade as we are in the anglophone dating world.
I have attempted, on multiple occasions, to fade my way out of undesirable entanglements here. According to past experiences on American soil, this should have gone off without a hitch.
But, of course, upon arrival in Paris, hitches abounded, and the most illustrative example is someone to whom I refer as Mr. Gym Stalker.
*
Mr. Gym Stalker worked the front desk at my gym. While I didn’t pay much attention to the front desk staff at the time, my gym buddy, the Irish Parisienne, pointed out to me that Mr. Gym Stalker had developed a little crush on me.
I laughed it off and just continued along my merry little way.
But one day, as I was on my way out, he summoned me over and told me that he needed to ask me about something.
Mr. G.S. : “I noticed that you don’t come here as often as you used to.”
Man-shopper : “Yeah, I moved. I only work out here if I’m in the neighborhood. I go to a different location now.”
Mr. G.S. : “Here’s the thing. I’ve been working here for two years now, and I can’t work out here anymore because people recognize me while I’m working out, assume that I’m on duty, and bother me.”
Man-shopper : “Uhhh, okay….”
Mr. G.S. : “It’s really difficult for me to motivate myself to work out at other locations, so I was wondering if you’d like to work out sometime at the location that you go to now. Planning to meet up with people motivates me more than if I were to just go by myself.”
www.nataliedee.com
Man-shopper : “Oh, ok, gym buddies are cool. Well, I go to spin class, you’re welcome to join me.”
And I thought that’d be it. I didn’t think that it would be a big deal, since I didn’t intend on returning to this gym location anymore. My move was finally official, and it was no longer convenient for me to trek out there. So, in my mind, this wasn’t a date, and I didn’t give him my number. This was just a… a nothing.
But then the phone calls started.
I had that gym’s phone number programmed into my phone, and I noticed that the gym would be calling me everyday, but nobody ever left a message. I didn’t bother call back, as I figured that if the gym had official business with me, they’d leave a message.
After a few weeks of this, I began to get lots of calls from a mobile number that I didn’t recognize, and sometimes from a masked phone number. Again, I don’t answer or return calls unless I know the number or if I’m expecting a call. These calls were really starting to concern me, as they would occur at least several times per day, sometimes as late as 11 at night.
I decided to approach this matter as if the caller were an undesirable and clueless suitor. I figured, the Fade should work eventually, right? I’ll just sit tight and be unresponsive until he gets the point and goes away.
A couple of months later of these persistent phone calls, I began to think that my phone was possessed. Who the hell would keep calling me like this without leaving a message??
www.nataliedee.com
I lived in fear of my phone.
I turned off its ringer.
One fateful day — my birthday, actually — I get a text message from the mystery mobile number.
“Hi, I just wanted to wish you a happy 27th birthday. All the best, Mr. G.C.”
So let’s recap the horribleness of this situation:
Mr. G.C. pulled my mobile number from the gym’s client files and proceeded to harass me for months without leaving a voicemail.
Mr. G.C. then pulled MY BIRTHDAY from my file and used the number acquired by inappropriate channels in order to harass me further.
My Fade failed miserably.
It had nothing to do with my technique. It is physically impossible to botch a Fade. Non-response is the easiest cop-out thing to do in the world.
But some creeptastic, stalkerish, dodgy Parisian men simply refuse to be Faded.
However, this is not to say that the Fade doesn’t have its uses on the Parisian scene. Even if the Fade fails miserably as a suitor-ditching technique, it is, however, a great way to determine whether one needs to consider taking out a restraining order.
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Oh boy. “The Fade.”
The infamous Fade has been a staple of human dating rituals since… gosh, it doesn’t really matter. You know what I’m talking about. Boy meets girl. Boy goes on date(s) with girl. Boy realizes that he is not into girl. Boy doesn’t call girl. Girl may attempt contact with boy. Boy ignores and fades into nothing. Girl eats caramels and moves on. The end.
www.nataliedee.com
I’ve been faded many a time in my life. I’ve even done some fading myself. The Fade is an established social convention indicating at least one party’s lack of interest in the other.
However, I’m not sure that all Parisian men are as familiar with the Fade as we are in the anglophone dating world.
I have attempted, on multiple occasions, to fade my way out of undesirable entanglements here. According to past experiences on American soil, this should have gone off without a hitch.
But, of course, upon arrival in Paris, hitches abounded, and the most illustrative example is someone to whom I refer as Mr. Gym Stalker.
*
Mr. Gym Stalker worked the front desk at my gym. While I didn’t pay much attention to the front desk staff at the time, my gym buddy, the Irish Parisienne, pointed out to me that Mr. Gym Stalker had developed a little crush on me.
I laughed it off and just continued along my merry little way.
But one day, as I was on my way out, he summoned me over and told me that he needed to ask me about something.
Mr. G.S. : “I noticed that you don’t come here as often as you used to.”
Man-shopper : “Yeah, I moved. I only work out here if I’m in the neighborhood. I go to a different location now.”
Mr. G.S. : “Here’s the thing. I’ve been working here for two years now, and I can’t work out here anymore because people recognize me while I’m working out, assume that I’m on duty, and bother me.”
Man-shopper : “Uhhh, okay….”
Mr. G.S. : “It’s really difficult for me to motivate myself to work out at other locations, so I was wondering if you’d like to work out sometime at the location that you go to now. Planning to meet up with people motivates me more than if I were to just go by myself.”
www.nataliedee.com
Man-shopper : “Oh, ok, gym buddies are cool. Well, I go to spin class, you’re welcome to join me.”
And I thought that’d be it. I didn’t think that it would be a big deal, since I didn’t intend on returning to this gym location anymore. My move was finally official, and it was no longer convenient for me to trek out there. So, in my mind, this wasn’t a date, and I didn’t give him my number. This was just a… a nothing.
But then the phone calls started.
I had that gym’s phone number programmed into my phone, and I noticed that the gym would be calling me everyday, but nobody ever left a message. I didn’t bother call back, as I figured that if the gym had official business with me, they’d leave a message.
After a few weeks of this, I began to get lots of calls from a mobile number that I didn’t recognize, and sometimes from a masked phone number. Again, I don’t answer or return calls unless I know the number or if I’m expecting a call. These calls were really starting to concern me, as they would occur at least several times per day, sometimes as late as 11 at night.
I decided to approach this matter as if the caller were an undesirable and clueless suitor. I figured, the Fade should work eventually, right? I’ll just sit tight and be unresponsive until he gets the point and goes away.
A couple of months later of these persistent phone calls, I began to think that my phone was possessed. Who the hell would keep calling me like this without leaving a message??
www.nataliedee.com
I lived in fear of my phone.
I turned off its ringer.
One fateful day — my birthday, actually — I get a text message from the mystery mobile number.
“Hi, I just wanted to wish you a happy 27th birthday. All the best, Mr. G.C.”
So let’s recap the horribleness of this situation:
Mr. G.C. pulled my mobile number from the gym’s client files and proceeded to harass me for months without leaving a voicemail.
Mr. G.C. then pulled MY BIRTHDAY from my file and used the number acquired by inappropriate channels in order to harass me further.
My Fade failed miserably.
It had nothing to do with my technique. It is physically impossible to botch a Fade. Non-response is the easiest cop-out thing to do in the world.
But some creeptastic, stalkerish, dodgy Parisian men simply refuse to be Faded.
However, this is not to say that the Fade doesn’t have its uses on the Parisian scene. Even if the Fade fails miserably as a suitor-ditching technique, it is, however, a great way to determine whether one needs to consider taking out a restraining order.
Début de l'événement
26.03.2023
Fin de l'événement
26.03.2023
My First First Date In A Long Time
Description
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So, a couple days later, I text the Chinese girl and ask her how the party went.
Her response: ”Great! But if you were there, would’ve been perfect!!! :) “
I like that response. We banter back in forth a bit, and then I eventually invite her to take me out in Chinatown the next day for afternoon tea, telling her she can “show me a good place”.
She agrees, only to hit me with the switch 20 minutes later, “we should go to dinner instead, there are no good cafes in Chinatown!”
Fucking shit. When Ghetto Club pulled this same shit on me a year ago, I rescinded the offer with a “never mind” that basically lead to our first ever fight – before we even went on our first date. But, this seems a bit different, it’s a Chinese girl who’s only been in America less than half a year and is taking me to a restaurant in Chinatown to show me something about where she comes from, so I actually just agree it and move our meeting time to later.
On the day of the date, I show up a bit early for a change. She’s not there yet, so I walk around. When she arrives, she texts me, “Hey I am right here!” So, I go back to our meeting spot and meet her. Then, we walk to the restaurant.
There are a lot of people standing around outside, so we assume there’s a wait. We go inside to put our name down, and she handles it of course speaking to the seating staff in Mandarin. She tells me it will be a 5 minute wait. So, we go back outside and look at some pastries in a nearby bakery and she’s explaining to me what the different treats are.
Sure enough in just a few short minutes, we’re called to come in and sit down. The place is rather small, so we’re actually sitting right next to another couple. I find it a bit odd and it also kind of kills any bit of sexual escalation I was planning on doing over dinner, since I have another couple right next to me.
We look at the menu and she points out things to me she thinks will be good, and I pretty much just go along with it, since I don’t know much about real Chinese food. She orders everything by talking to the waitstaff in Chinese and I have no idea what I’m about to get.
There’s tea on the table and she pours my glass and hers and continues to pour my tea all night long whenever its empty.
We chat a bit. The conversation is more comfort than anything, since it’s hard to attraction with her since her English isn’t great. I tell her about myself a bit and where I come from and I guess my hope in that is that minor DHV’s drop in from time to time.
When the food comes out, she tries to teach me how to use chopsticks, but I’m horrible at it I would starve if I were forced to eat such away. So, I wind up just eating the dumplings with the serving spoon until the waitstaff can bring me a fork. That’s much better.
We share a lot of laughs… at my expense…. since I’m so awful with the chopsticks. She keeps trying to teach me and help me, but to no avail really. Plus, this shit hurts my hand, it’s so unnatural for me.
About halfway through dinner she says I should use this time to practice my chopstick skills. I tell her that I’ll try them again, but she has to use her left hand.
She tries to using her left hand and drops stuff and struggles to pick stuff up, saying “It is hard with my left hand! I’m as bad as you!”
“Yeah, now you see how I feel….”
Eventually, I kind of get the hang of it and am actually able to eat with these things, although my hand feels like a warped claw. She keeps saying “Good, good. There you go.” Every time I successfully pick something up with the chopsticks, and then she tries to find something bigger or harder to grab and says, “now try this one.”
It’s quite the experience, but eventually we get full and request take home boxes. We split the check and head out. We walk and talk for a little bit to end the date, but for the first time in a long time, I’m questioning what I should do and how/if I should kino.
She touches my arm from time to time, usually crossing the street or something like that. I should’ve just grabbed her hand, but for some reason I was unsure about it…. and I can’t remember the last time I felt so unsure about grabbing a women’s hand, but here I was in Chinatown with a girl straight from China and I’m wondering “Can I grab her hand? Is that culturally allowed? Is that acceptable?”
I have no idea what the cultural norms are. So, I question it too much and never do it. At the end of the date, we hug before we part ways. I try to grab her chin and go for the kiss, but she gives me the cheek and that’s it. Again, she may just not be interested in kissing in public – I don’t know.
I should probably learn more about the cultural norms of dating Chinese women and then try to figure out how to fit and alpha frame into that. Or something.
All-in-all, it’s an okay date. I could’ve pushed to make it longer, extending in to a longer walk through the park or maybe to some place nearby, perhaps a pub even – although that’d be a bit incongruent with my new-found soberness. I’m not sure if I’m in much of a better position with her now than I was before – but at least I was able to hang out with her outside of school for a couple of hours and have a good time.
It also serves as a few firsts for me, which are nice to get out of the way:
my first date with an Asian girl and I’m not even talking FOB, just my first date with an Asian girl, period.
my first date since my break up with Ghetto Club
And, my first dinner first date….. maybe ever.
It may not go anywhere, but at least I learned how to use chopsticks.
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So, a couple days later, I text the Chinese girl and ask her how the party went.
Her response: ”Great! But if you were there, would’ve been perfect!!! :) “
I like that response. We banter back in forth a bit, and then I eventually invite her to take me out in Chinatown the next day for afternoon tea, telling her she can “show me a good place”.
She agrees, only to hit me with the switch 20 minutes later, “we should go to dinner instead, there are no good cafes in Chinatown!”
Fucking shit. When Ghetto Club pulled this same shit on me a year ago, I rescinded the offer with a “never mind” that basically lead to our first ever fight – before we even went on our first date. But, this seems a bit different, it’s a Chinese girl who’s only been in America less than half a year and is taking me to a restaurant in Chinatown to show me something about where she comes from, so I actually just agree it and move our meeting time to later.
On the day of the date, I show up a bit early for a change. She’s not there yet, so I walk around. When she arrives, she texts me, “Hey I am right here!” So, I go back to our meeting spot and meet her. Then, we walk to the restaurant.
There are a lot of people standing around outside, so we assume there’s a wait. We go inside to put our name down, and she handles it of course speaking to the seating staff in Mandarin. She tells me it will be a 5 minute wait. So, we go back outside and look at some pastries in a nearby bakery and she’s explaining to me what the different treats are.
Sure enough in just a few short minutes, we’re called to come in and sit down. The place is rather small, so we’re actually sitting right next to another couple. I find it a bit odd and it also kind of kills any bit of sexual escalation I was planning on doing over dinner, since I have another couple right next to me.
We look at the menu and she points out things to me she thinks will be good, and I pretty much just go along with it, since I don’t know much about real Chinese food. She orders everything by talking to the waitstaff in Chinese and I have no idea what I’m about to get.
There’s tea on the table and she pours my glass and hers and continues to pour my tea all night long whenever its empty.
We chat a bit. The conversation is more comfort than anything, since it’s hard to attraction with her since her English isn’t great. I tell her about myself a bit and where I come from and I guess my hope in that is that minor DHV’s drop in from time to time.
When the food comes out, she tries to teach me how to use chopsticks, but I’m horrible at it I would starve if I were forced to eat such away. So, I wind up just eating the dumplings with the serving spoon until the waitstaff can bring me a fork. That’s much better.
We share a lot of laughs… at my expense…. since I’m so awful with the chopsticks. She keeps trying to teach me and help me, but to no avail really. Plus, this shit hurts my hand, it’s so unnatural for me.
About halfway through dinner she says I should use this time to practice my chopstick skills. I tell her that I’ll try them again, but she has to use her left hand.
She tries to using her left hand and drops stuff and struggles to pick stuff up, saying “It is hard with my left hand! I’m as bad as you!”
“Yeah, now you see how I feel….”
Eventually, I kind of get the hang of it and am actually able to eat with these things, although my hand feels like a warped claw. She keeps saying “Good, good. There you go.” Every time I successfully pick something up with the chopsticks, and then she tries to find something bigger or harder to grab and says, “now try this one.”
It’s quite the experience, but eventually we get full and request take home boxes. We split the check and head out. We walk and talk for a little bit to end the date, but for the first time in a long time, I’m questioning what I should do and how/if I should kino.
She touches my arm from time to time, usually crossing the street or something like that. I should’ve just grabbed her hand, but for some reason I was unsure about it…. and I can’t remember the last time I felt so unsure about grabbing a women’s hand, but here I was in Chinatown with a girl straight from China and I’m wondering “Can I grab her hand? Is that culturally allowed? Is that acceptable?”
I have no idea what the cultural norms are. So, I question it too much and never do it. At the end of the date, we hug before we part ways. I try to grab her chin and go for the kiss, but she gives me the cheek and that’s it. Again, she may just not be interested in kissing in public – I don’t know.
I should probably learn more about the cultural norms of dating Chinese women and then try to figure out how to fit and alpha frame into that. Or something.
All-in-all, it’s an okay date. I could’ve pushed to make it longer, extending in to a longer walk through the park or maybe to some place nearby, perhaps a pub even – although that’d be a bit incongruent with my new-found soberness. I’m not sure if I’m in much of a better position with her now than I was before – but at least I was able to hang out with her outside of school for a couple of hours and have a good time.
It also serves as a few firsts for me, which are nice to get out of the way:
my first date with an Asian girl and I’m not even talking FOB, just my first date with an Asian girl, period.
my first date since my break up with Ghetto Club
And, my first dinner first date….. maybe ever.
It may not go anywhere, but at least I learned how to use chopsticks.
Début de l'événement
24.01.2022
Fin de l'événement
24.01.2022
Notre démocratie en panne ?
Début de l'événement
05.10.2024 - 18:30
Fin de l'événement
05.10.2024
Adresse
La Maison Mémérou, 5 place du Bourg
Ville
Saint Paul en Cornillon
Oh you can cook, I’m in love with you
Description
Marriage vs. Addiction: Winning the Battle for Love
Marriage Without Intimacy: Can Love Survive the Distance?
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He Seemed Interested. So Why Didn’t He Call?
Online Dating Isn’t Desperation
Changing Your Dating Approach
Why Modern Dating is More Complicated Than Ever
Dating Someone With Debt
Marriage vs. Parenthood: Life After Having a Baby
The Fine Line Between Casual Dating and Commitment
How to Handle the Truth After Discovering a Betray
lol awesome. Love it. You don’t have to be logical at all with your reasons for why you break up with her…the point is that you give ANY reason, just like falling in love with her. “Oh you can cook, I’m in love with you. What are those shoes you’re wearing? Black shoes? No I hate black shoes, we’re broken up.” Like, it can be just complete arbitrary illogical nonsense…that’s all you self-amusing and it keeps her going “omg wtf is with this guy lol I can’t keep up!! He’s crazy lol!!”
But step back and look at that logically, what’s going on there? You’re leading the convo, you’re setting the frame, and she’s playing catch-up to you leading the interaction.
Compare that to “Do you like Band Blah? Oh that’s cool, me too…so umm what about Band Durr? Oh you like them? I’m not a big fan, I mean they’re okay but I think their older songs were better…like do you know this one song–” zzzzzzzzzzzzzzz…
Which interaction is more fun and pushing the girl through more of an emotional rollercoaster, you know?
“After a few seconds, I’m like ‘remember that time we broke up. listen, I didn’t mean all of that. You just make me really mad sometimes.’”
Fucking lol. This is awesome. I’m probably going to steal it. It reminds me of Matt Damon at the end of this set of clips from Entourage:
Where he’s crying and then apologizing lol Like it’s such a classic stereotype thing that it’s hilarious to see, let alone be the recipient of, from someone you’ve literally just met for the first time a few minutes ago, you know? Great stuff.
“And she’s like ‘oh, okay…well so are we back together?’”
And now you guys are roleplaying being a couple. :) This is all good stuff in terms of flirting in general. This isn’t gay friend zone supplicating to her shit. This chick might not fuck you or anything, but this is a solid interaction and she’s completely in your frame.
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Holding On or Letting Go: When Addiction Tests a Marriage
The Marriage We Almost Lost: How Unemployment Changed Everything
Marriage And Chaos: Finding Common Ground in Parenting
He Seemed Interested. So Why Didn’t He Call?
Online Dating Isn’t Desperation
Changing Your Dating Approach
Why Modern Dating is More Complicated Than Ever
Dating Someone With Debt
Marriage vs. Parenthood: Life After Having a Baby
The Fine Line Between Casual Dating and Commitment
How to Handle the Truth After Discovering a Betray
lol awesome. Love it. You don’t have to be logical at all with your reasons for why you break up with her…the point is that you give ANY reason, just like falling in love with her. “Oh you can cook, I’m in love with you. What are those shoes you’re wearing? Black shoes? No I hate black shoes, we’re broken up.” Like, it can be just complete arbitrary illogical nonsense…that’s all you self-amusing and it keeps her going “omg wtf is with this guy lol I can’t keep up!! He’s crazy lol!!”
But step back and look at that logically, what’s going on there? You’re leading the convo, you’re setting the frame, and she’s playing catch-up to you leading the interaction.
Compare that to “Do you like Band Blah? Oh that’s cool, me too…so umm what about Band Durr? Oh you like them? I’m not a big fan, I mean they’re okay but I think their older songs were better…like do you know this one song–” zzzzzzzzzzzzzzz…
Which interaction is more fun and pushing the girl through more of an emotional rollercoaster, you know?
“After a few seconds, I’m like ‘remember that time we broke up. listen, I didn’t mean all of that. You just make me really mad sometimes.’”
Fucking lol. This is awesome. I’m probably going to steal it. It reminds me of Matt Damon at the end of this set of clips from Entourage:
Where he’s crying and then apologizing lol Like it’s such a classic stereotype thing that it’s hilarious to see, let alone be the recipient of, from someone you’ve literally just met for the first time a few minutes ago, you know? Great stuff.
“And she’s like ‘oh, okay…well so are we back together?’”
And now you guys are roleplaying being a couple. :) This is all good stuff in terms of flirting in general. This isn’t gay friend zone supplicating to her shit. This chick might not fuck you or anything, but this is a solid interaction and she’s completely in your frame.
Début de l'événement
27.03.2022
Fin de l'événement
27.03.2022
papycamp
Début de l'événement
09.04.2024 - 14:00
Fin de l'événement
09.04.2024 - 17:00
Adresse url
https://zoomacom.org
Adresse
41 rue de la télématique
Code postal
42000
Ville
Saint-Etienne
Parlons démocratie ! Notre Journée locale de la Démocratie
Description
En cette veille de Journée Internationale de la démocratie (fixée par l’Organisation des Nations Unies (ONU) et correspondant à l'adoption, en septembre 1997, de la Déclaration universelle sur la démocratie), nous vous proposons de célébrer cette Déclaration qui pose les principes constitutifs d'une démocratie et définit les caractéristiques et les fonctions d’un gouvernement démocratique.
Nous vous proposons une déambulation, suivie d'un débat participatif, d'ateliers et de tables rondes pour réexaminer l'état de notre démocratie, locale, territoriale et nationale... et désormais "Faire démocratie pour de bon !"
Plus d'infos sur le site https://democratiepourdebon.wordpress.com/
Rendez-vous Déambulation déguisée en mouton : rdv Place de l'Hotel de Ville : 10h
Rendez-vous Débat: Bourse du Travail.
Citoyen et Citoyenne Libre de la Loire (C2L2)
Collectif des Sans-Voix
Démocratie Sociale Ecologique: https://democratie-sociale-ecologique.fr
Nous vous proposons une déambulation, suivie d'un débat participatif, d'ateliers et de tables rondes pour réexaminer l'état de notre démocratie, locale, territoriale et nationale... et désormais "Faire démocratie pour de bon !"
Plus d'infos sur le site https://democratiepourdebon.wordpress.com/
Rendez-vous Déambulation déguisée en mouton : rdv Place de l'Hotel de Ville : 10h
Rendez-vous Débat: Bourse du Travail.
Citoyen et Citoyenne Libre de la Loire (C2L2)
Collectif des Sans-Voix
Démocratie Sociale Ecologique: https://democratie-sociale-ecologique.fr
Début de l'événement
14.09.2024 - 10:00
Fin de l'événement
14.09.2024 - 16:00
Adresse url
https://democratiepourdebon.wordpress.com/
Adresse
Bourse du travail
Code postal
42000
Ville
Saint-Etienne
Passing Notes In The Library
Description
Do You Reveal Too Much About Your Relationship?
Be Yourself: The Truth About Authentic Dating
Why So Many Relationships End at 90 Days
There really are NO BAD DATES!
How The Law of Attraction Can Help You Find Love
A Dude Diner’s Doctrine
Soundtrax To Your Life: Pre-Date Tunes
Ms. Awesome’s Advice for Men
Bad Relationships Aren’t Investments
How To Get A One Nite Stand Out Of Your Apartment
I was in the library, studying for a test, when a real cute latina came and sat down across from me. She was wearing a pink and white striped shirt.
I wanted to open her, but I was in the library. People are studying, you’re not supposed to talk in the library. What should I do? What should I do?
Then, I get an idea…
I reach in my bag and pull out my notepad and a pen and I actually start feeling an adrenaline rush, I find it amusing as hell that I’m about to pass this girl a note like it’s middle school or something, I write exactly this:
You look like a pink candy cane. But, you are rather cute. (I’m trying to be considerate of others and not talk in the library, so I’m passing you this note.)
Then, I reached across and hand it to her, and watch her read it. She reads the whole thing and busts out smiling, and looks at me. I smile back.
Then, she goes back to her work.
Ahhh! She’s not going to write me back? No fun!
I just go back to my work and forget about it. I study some more, then it was almost time for me to go, so I figured, fuck it, I’m giving it another shot. I grab another piece of paper and write.
I’m about to leave in a second. Are you on Facebook? If so, write your info down and pass it back.
I rip it out of my notebook and reach up to hand it to her. This time, she smiles as I hand it.
She reads it and then whispers, “No, I’m not…”
She’s not on Facebook? She could just be lying to me… ahh well. I pack my shit up and get ready to head out.
I unplug my latptop, put it in my bag and get up from my seat then I walk up to her and shake her hand,
“What’s your name?”
“Alejandra.”
“Alright, nice to meet you Alejandra. My name’s [Willy Wonka]. That was fun. Take it easy.” I shake her hand and head out.
No, I didn’t close, but it actually was kind of funny.
I probably made her fucking day.
Be Yourself: The Truth About Authentic Dating
Why So Many Relationships End at 90 Days
There really are NO BAD DATES!
How The Law of Attraction Can Help You Find Love
A Dude Diner’s Doctrine
Soundtrax To Your Life: Pre-Date Tunes
Ms. Awesome’s Advice for Men
Bad Relationships Aren’t Investments
How To Get A One Nite Stand Out Of Your Apartment
I was in the library, studying for a test, when a real cute latina came and sat down across from me. She was wearing a pink and white striped shirt.
I wanted to open her, but I was in the library. People are studying, you’re not supposed to talk in the library. What should I do? What should I do?
Then, I get an idea…
I reach in my bag and pull out my notepad and a pen and I actually start feeling an adrenaline rush, I find it amusing as hell that I’m about to pass this girl a note like it’s middle school or something, I write exactly this:
You look like a pink candy cane. But, you are rather cute. (I’m trying to be considerate of others and not talk in the library, so I’m passing you this note.)
Then, I reached across and hand it to her, and watch her read it. She reads the whole thing and busts out smiling, and looks at me. I smile back.
Then, she goes back to her work.
Ahhh! She’s not going to write me back? No fun!
I just go back to my work and forget about it. I study some more, then it was almost time for me to go, so I figured, fuck it, I’m giving it another shot. I grab another piece of paper and write.
I’m about to leave in a second. Are you on Facebook? If so, write your info down and pass it back.
I rip it out of my notebook and reach up to hand it to her. This time, she smiles as I hand it.
She reads it and then whispers, “No, I’m not…”
She’s not on Facebook? She could just be lying to me… ahh well. I pack my shit up and get ready to head out.
I unplug my latptop, put it in my bag and get up from my seat then I walk up to her and shake her hand,
“What’s your name?”
“Alejandra.”
“Alright, nice to meet you Alejandra. My name’s [Willy Wonka]. That was fun. Take it easy.” I shake her hand and head out.
No, I didn’t close, but it actually was kind of funny.
I probably made her fucking day.
Début de l'événement
31.01.2022
Fin de l'événement
31.01.2022
Projection d'un film maritime de Marieke Huysmans-Berthou & présentation d'un projet de film documentaire réalisé par la Maison Mémérou dans les Cyclades
Description
Projection d'un film " maritime" de Marieke Huysmans-Berthou & présentation d'un projet de film documentaire réalisé par la maison Mémérou dans les Cyclades.
le 28 septembre à 20 heures entrée libre (chapeau)
Le tout suivi d'un apéritif partagé
le 28 septembre à 20 heures entrée libre (chapeau)
Le tout suivi d'un apéritif partagé
Début de l'événement
28.09.2024 - 20:00
Fin de l'événement
28.09.2024 - 22:00
Adresse url
https://www.la-maison-memerou.com/prochainement
Adresse
5 place du Bourg
Code postal
42
Ville
Saint Paul en Cornillon
R(évolutions locales): Séance collective du Mooc des Colibris
Description
Développé en partenariat avec des expert·es renommé·es et des acteurs locaux du changement et organisé dans le cadre de la Fête des Possibles, ce mooc offre une opportunité unique d’explorer les différentes dimensions de la transformation de votre territoire. Que vous soyez déjà engagé·es dans des initiatives locales ou simplement désireux·euses d’en apprendre davantage sur les solutions alternatives, ce MOOC
vous fournira les connaissances, les outils et l’inspiration nécessaires pour passer à l’action !
Au total il y a 5 Mooc qui nous apportent des outils au service de la transition dans nos territoires. Nous choisirons le Module 2 - Crise globale, impact local afin de partager les constats qui nous amèneront à souhaiter passer à l'action.
Inscription par sms au 0673985255
vous fournira les connaissances, les outils et l’inspiration nécessaires pour passer à l’action !
Au total il y a 5 Mooc qui nous apportent des outils au service de la transition dans nos territoires. Nous choisirons le Module 2 - Crise globale, impact local afin de partager les constats qui nous amèneront à souhaiter passer à l'action.
Inscription par sms au 0673985255
Début de l'événement
17.09.2024 - 10:00
Fin de l'événement
17.09.2024 - 13:00
Adresse
Ici Bientôt, 40 Rue de la résistance
Code postal
42000
Ville
Saint-Etienne
R(évolutions locales): Séance collective du Mooc des Colibris (Suite)
Début de l'événement
25.09.2024 - 19:00
Fin de l'événement
25.09.2024 - 21:00
Adresse
Ici Bientôt, 4à Rue de la Résistance
Code postal
42000
Ville
Saint-Etienne
Red Flags to Watch for in Online Dating
Description
We’re All Slutty For The Right Guy
Dear Men: This Is Why Loyalty Is So Important To Women
How Do You Avoid Dating a Liberal/Conservative?
Are You Looking For Fast Love Too?
Should You Fake an Active Lifestyle for Love?
When a Relationship Feels Like a Secret Mission
Pushing Through It
Embracing The Unexpected Path Of Singlehood
Why Is It So Hard to Believe Someone Might Stay?
Am I Crazy Or Is He A Hot Mess?
The most insidious and gross way that this manifests itself is when a guy would talk on and on about feminist politics and sexual liberation in order to get laid — and this happened all the time. It’s really difficult to see it coming because at first, it’s easy to get caught up in the excitement of a man really knowing his literature and being knowledgeable about women’s issues in politics and culture. It makes you feel respected. But it’s a bait-and-switch. I got hoodwinked this way — a guy I was dating was very upfront about being “poly,” which I was open to if things went somewhere. But as time went on, it became clear that the personal, emotional respect accorded to partners in real polyamorous relationships was missing from him. In other words, he wasn’t looking for a polyamorous relationship, he was looking for a bunch of booty calls. In other other words, he lied to get laid. Gross.
You know what’s actually cool to me? Guys who don’t feel the need to be patted on the back for being feminists, who do it solely because they think it’s right, who don’t push their version of feminism on women. Guys who don’t co-opt the conversation or showboat their opinions. There are plenty of those guys out there, doing the hard work with us — and they deserve way more credit than Feminist Frank is getting.
Ladies, I’m sure you have experienced this before. You are having a perfectly good flirtation session with a perfectly hot guy when all of a sudden … he ruins everything. The other night, I was at a party, talking with a guy I found extremely attractive and cool. We were wrapping up the conversation, about to exchange contact info, when he made a serious misstep. He reached down underneath his chair and pulled out a giant bicycle helmet and PUT IT ON. He looked so ridiculous that I couldn’t take him seriously. I fully support bicycle riding, especially with the proper safety precautions, but couldn’t he have waited until we parted ways to put the stupid thing on? Sigh. Foiled by a bicycle helmet. After the jump some more flirtation killers sure to spoil a good vibe. Add yours in the comments.
Boogers. Snot or dangling boogers are just too hard for me to ignore. Perhaps I am immature. I just can’t.
Improper use of basic grammar. I ain’t really feelin’ that.
Annoying texts. If a flirtation moves to text, sentiments such as “C U L8R” or the excessive use of emoticons kills any glimmer of hope. We are no longer in middle school.
The offering of illegal substances. I don’t take drugs from strangers and I don’t date strangers who offer me drugs. Any questions?
Dear Men: This Is Why Loyalty Is So Important To Women
How Do You Avoid Dating a Liberal/Conservative?
Are You Looking For Fast Love Too?
Should You Fake an Active Lifestyle for Love?
When a Relationship Feels Like a Secret Mission
Pushing Through It
Embracing The Unexpected Path Of Singlehood
Why Is It So Hard to Believe Someone Might Stay?
Am I Crazy Or Is He A Hot Mess?
The most insidious and gross way that this manifests itself is when a guy would talk on and on about feminist politics and sexual liberation in order to get laid — and this happened all the time. It’s really difficult to see it coming because at first, it’s easy to get caught up in the excitement of a man really knowing his literature and being knowledgeable about women’s issues in politics and culture. It makes you feel respected. But it’s a bait-and-switch. I got hoodwinked this way — a guy I was dating was very upfront about being “poly,” which I was open to if things went somewhere. But as time went on, it became clear that the personal, emotional respect accorded to partners in real polyamorous relationships was missing from him. In other words, he wasn’t looking for a polyamorous relationship, he was looking for a bunch of booty calls. In other other words, he lied to get laid. Gross.
You know what’s actually cool to me? Guys who don’t feel the need to be patted on the back for being feminists, who do it solely because they think it’s right, who don’t push their version of feminism on women. Guys who don’t co-opt the conversation or showboat their opinions. There are plenty of those guys out there, doing the hard work with us — and they deserve way more credit than Feminist Frank is getting.
Ladies, I’m sure you have experienced this before. You are having a perfectly good flirtation session with a perfectly hot guy when all of a sudden … he ruins everything. The other night, I was at a party, talking with a guy I found extremely attractive and cool. We were wrapping up the conversation, about to exchange contact info, when he made a serious misstep. He reached down underneath his chair and pulled out a giant bicycle helmet and PUT IT ON. He looked so ridiculous that I couldn’t take him seriously. I fully support bicycle riding, especially with the proper safety precautions, but couldn’t he have waited until we parted ways to put the stupid thing on? Sigh. Foiled by a bicycle helmet. After the jump some more flirtation killers sure to spoil a good vibe. Add yours in the comments.
Boogers. Snot or dangling boogers are just too hard for me to ignore. Perhaps I am immature. I just can’t.
Improper use of basic grammar. I ain’t really feelin’ that.
Annoying texts. If a flirtation moves to text, sentiments such as “C U L8R” or the excessive use of emoticons kills any glimmer of hope. We are no longer in middle school.
The offering of illegal substances. I don’t take drugs from strangers and I don’t date strangers who offer me drugs. Any questions?
Début de l'événement
11.03.2022
Fin de l'événement
11.03.2022
Réunion INfos Jardins partagés Cotonne
Description
Préparer la gestion et le devenir de ce nouveau bien commun à la Cotonne
RDV au 6 Boulevard Allende à Saint-Etienne, annexe du centre social le Colibri
RDV au 6 Boulevard Allende à Saint-Etienne, annexe du centre social le Colibri
Début de l'événement
05.01.2026 - 17:00
Fin de l'événement
05.01.2026 - 19:00
Second Attempt at a Half Assed Weekend Post
Description
Surviving a Long-Term Affair and Saving a Marriage
Transforming Communication and Parenting in a Troubled Marriage
Healing a Marriage by Confronting Insecurities and Building Trust
Religious Differences and Strengthening Marriage Bonds
The Affection Gap: Bridging Emotional Distance in a Long-Term Marriage
Workplace Dating Detours
When Blind Dates Go Wrong
Comfort Vs. Fulfillment In Modern Dating
Demanding Respect and Openness in a Relationship
Get Outta My Dating Pool
Seeking Clarity and Connection in Dating
Gym Flirting 101
Finding Balance in Love After Loss
So my last post wasn't as Half Assed as I'd like it to be...so I am doing another one. I know...I know...it negates the half assed-ness of it all. I'm a perfectionist...and I feel like I could do a lesser post...so back off!
Last night I was driving to my friends house and I was listening to my Josh Groban Christmas album on my ipod (plugged into my AUX...not with my ear pods in) and singing away while I sat in some traffic. Then a song I hadn't heard came on and I cried. I mean...full fledged tears running down my cheeks and I tried to make sure my makeup didn't smudge (cause I'm girlie like that). I would be okay then the refrain hit and I cried again. I got to the hiccuping stage and everything. I know-I'm special-still something about this song just hit a chord with me.
I was listening to the lyrics and I swear to you I thought, "Rita would love this song. This song is going to make her cry too." So I decided to share it. I'm dedicating this song to lovely Rita over at The Adventures of Cinderita. I know you are having a rough time right now and that you don't need cheering. I get that but all the same I just know that this song will mean to you what it means to me. Enjoy it.
Now that I am crying all over again it is time for me to go and get some wrapping done. I hope everyone had/is having a wonderful weekend. I also have to send a big congrats out to Simple Dude for the success of his half assed weekend posts! :-)
Transforming Communication and Parenting in a Troubled Marriage
Healing a Marriage by Confronting Insecurities and Building Trust
Religious Differences and Strengthening Marriage Bonds
The Affection Gap: Bridging Emotional Distance in a Long-Term Marriage
Workplace Dating Detours
When Blind Dates Go Wrong
Comfort Vs. Fulfillment In Modern Dating
Demanding Respect and Openness in a Relationship
Get Outta My Dating Pool
Seeking Clarity and Connection in Dating
Gym Flirting 101
Finding Balance in Love After Loss
So my last post wasn't as Half Assed as I'd like it to be...so I am doing another one. I know...I know...it negates the half assed-ness of it all. I'm a perfectionist...and I feel like I could do a lesser post...so back off!
Last night I was driving to my friends house and I was listening to my Josh Groban Christmas album on my ipod (plugged into my AUX...not with my ear pods in) and singing away while I sat in some traffic. Then a song I hadn't heard came on and I cried. I mean...full fledged tears running down my cheeks and I tried to make sure my makeup didn't smudge (cause I'm girlie like that). I would be okay then the refrain hit and I cried again. I got to the hiccuping stage and everything. I know-I'm special-still something about this song just hit a chord with me.
I was listening to the lyrics and I swear to you I thought, "Rita would love this song. This song is going to make her cry too." So I decided to share it. I'm dedicating this song to lovely Rita over at The Adventures of Cinderita. I know you are having a rough time right now and that you don't need cheering. I get that but all the same I just know that this song will mean to you what it means to me. Enjoy it.
Now that I am crying all over again it is time for me to go and get some wrapping done. I hope everyone had/is having a wonderful weekend. I also have to send a big congrats out to Simple Dude for the success of his half assed weekend posts! :-)
Début de l'événement
24.03.2023
Fin de l'événement
24.03.2023
Séminaire-Webinaire "Leçon inaugurale de l’École d’Économie Écologique"
Description
Libre avec Inscription obligatoire
Par "The other economy" et AJE (Association des journalistes de l'environnement)
Peut-on remplacer à l’infini les ressources naturelles ? Suffit-il de donner un prix aux pollutions pour les réduire ? La technologie va-t-elle nous sauver ?
Ouvert aux journalistes, ce séminaire réunira les meilleurs spécialistes français sur des questions aussi brûlantes que la transition juste, la monnaie et le climat ou le financement du programme électronucléaire français…
Ce cycle sera lancé, le 29 janvier 2026, à l’occasion d’une leçon inaugurale, prononcée à deux voix. Deux regards croisés, deux approches, deux expériences pour éclairer ces questions :
- Alain Grandjean, économiste, Président de The Other Economy, associé et cofondateur du Cabinet Carbone 4, ancien membre du Haut Conseil pour le Climat.
- Laurent Berger, directeur de l’Institut Mutualiste pour l’Environnement et la Solidarité du Crédit Mutuel Alliance Fédérale, ancien Secrétaire général de la CFDT.
Par "The other economy" et AJE (Association des journalistes de l'environnement)
Peut-on remplacer à l’infini les ressources naturelles ? Suffit-il de donner un prix aux pollutions pour les réduire ? La technologie va-t-elle nous sauver ?
Ouvert aux journalistes, ce séminaire réunira les meilleurs spécialistes français sur des questions aussi brûlantes que la transition juste, la monnaie et le climat ou le financement du programme électronucléaire français…
Ce cycle sera lancé, le 29 janvier 2026, à l’occasion d’une leçon inaugurale, prononcée à deux voix. Deux regards croisés, deux approches, deux expériences pour éclairer ces questions :
- Alain Grandjean, économiste, Président de The Other Economy, associé et cofondateur du Cabinet Carbone 4, ancien membre du Haut Conseil pour le Climat.
- Laurent Berger, directeur de l’Institut Mutualiste pour l’Environnement et la Solidarité du Crédit Mutuel Alliance Fédérale, ancien Secrétaire général de la CFDT.
Début de l'événement
29.01.2026 - 18:30
Fin de l'événement
29.01.2026 - 21:00
Adresse
FIAP-Paris, 30 rue Cabanis / Salle RIO-1.
Code postal
75014
Ville
Paris
Smart, Independent, and Alone? Challenges Women Face in Dating
Description
Questioning Dating Perferences
Jaded About Dating
Endless Evidence Gathering
Snooping on a Partner
Interracial Dating And Relationships
Why Do You Want to Be in a Relationship?
Being Really Smart Can Work Against A Woman
Flexibility in Modern Relationships
"Till Death Do Us Part"
Assembly Line of Hot
The Art of Selective Truths in Dating
Warning Signs on the First Date
Any revolutionary vision worth a grain of salt must be one in which caring for one's self is not pitted against caring for the world. How to do this in a new way, one that isn't about advocating for the naval gazing of the highly privileged, or the current notion of self care as a solely private function - I don't know exactly. But I do know that the separation between self and other has been exaggerated by the modern, capitalist world, so much so that it's difficult for those of us born and bred in this culture to move beyond imagining another way of being together, and working together. Lots of visions, but mostly visions that we repeatedly chop off at the feet through our capitalized habits.
And so, in the end, I think it's important to have some compassion for where we are at. For all the ways in which members of different groups are struggling, and so often failing, to come together to resist and break down the oppressive structures that be, and to build something new, and more life affirming. It's heartbreaking at times how much we tend to step on each others' feet and keep the wheels of oppression turning, even amongst folks who are so motivated to not perpetuate that very thing. But it's what people do when they haven't figured out another way.
In other words, we aren't going to get to something called "community care" or a culture of caring for each other as the norm without going through a lot of mud. And being ok with the fact that sometimes, it's too much to take even one more ounce of that mud under our consideration for a day, week, month, or even year at a time. The revolution must be something that moves beyond anything we can think up. It has to include the whole works, and probably needs to defy most of our expectations and desires, in order to be that which our hearts truly long for.
There has been some pretty intense discussion on this post about a relationship between a man nearly 20 years older than his now fiance. Some of it has been about the age difference. Some of it about the way in which the man waffled about his desire to have children again. There have been several other related issues that have been brought up as well, and I'd invite people to read through the comments section - it's a pretty rich discussion.
One comment in particular, by a guy named Allen, struck me as really important.
We all go through stages of being ready or not ready for love. It is a matter of finding a good match and when both are ready.
Jaded About Dating
Endless Evidence Gathering
Snooping on a Partner
Interracial Dating And Relationships
Why Do You Want to Be in a Relationship?
Being Really Smart Can Work Against A Woman
Flexibility in Modern Relationships
"Till Death Do Us Part"
Assembly Line of Hot
The Art of Selective Truths in Dating
Warning Signs on the First Date
Any revolutionary vision worth a grain of salt must be one in which caring for one's self is not pitted against caring for the world. How to do this in a new way, one that isn't about advocating for the naval gazing of the highly privileged, or the current notion of self care as a solely private function - I don't know exactly. But I do know that the separation between self and other has been exaggerated by the modern, capitalist world, so much so that it's difficult for those of us born and bred in this culture to move beyond imagining another way of being together, and working together. Lots of visions, but mostly visions that we repeatedly chop off at the feet through our capitalized habits.
And so, in the end, I think it's important to have some compassion for where we are at. For all the ways in which members of different groups are struggling, and so often failing, to come together to resist and break down the oppressive structures that be, and to build something new, and more life affirming. It's heartbreaking at times how much we tend to step on each others' feet and keep the wheels of oppression turning, even amongst folks who are so motivated to not perpetuate that very thing. But it's what people do when they haven't figured out another way.
In other words, we aren't going to get to something called "community care" or a culture of caring for each other as the norm without going through a lot of mud. And being ok with the fact that sometimes, it's too much to take even one more ounce of that mud under our consideration for a day, week, month, or even year at a time. The revolution must be something that moves beyond anything we can think up. It has to include the whole works, and probably needs to defy most of our expectations and desires, in order to be that which our hearts truly long for.
There has been some pretty intense discussion on this post about a relationship between a man nearly 20 years older than his now fiance. Some of it has been about the age difference. Some of it about the way in which the man waffled about his desire to have children again. There have been several other related issues that have been brought up as well, and I'd invite people to read through the comments section - it's a pretty rich discussion.
One comment in particular, by a guy named Allen, struck me as really important.
We all go through stages of being ready or not ready for love. It is a matter of finding a good match and when both are ready.
Début de l'événement
02.01.2023
Fin de l'événement
02.01.2023
Sortie Culturelle
Description
La culture, moins on en a, plus on l'étale!
Début de l'événement
30.05.2023 - 18:00
Fin de l'événement
02.05.2021 - 20:00
Adresse url
https://www.yeswiki.net
Adresse
Avenue des Champs Elysées
Code postal
75000
Ville
Paris
Sunday weigh-in... and um, my "boyfriend" (???)
Description
There’s No Such Thing as a “Good” or “Bad” Marriage
A Married Man Needs Only 3 Things From His Wife
I Am Not The Caretaker of My Marriage
10 Guilty Pleasures For Couples
The Man Behind How I Have It All
14 Ways Having Kids Affects Your Relationship
Love Rewards the Brave
The Book That Changed the Way I Look at Love
When Divorce Runs in the Family
The Silence That Can Save Your Relationship
Is It Ever OK to Lie to Your Spouse?
Good news: I managed to lose 2.4 lbs this past week, bringing me back to my most recent low weight of 132.8 – big celebration! (confirms that last week’s gain was indeed most likely due to PMS – thanks for all your knowing words of support!).
Now – got to keep this loss moving along. 130 is a big hurdle I haven’t crossed in years, so that’s my current goal – to jump that hurdle!
It’s been a fun weekend, with lots of TC time. We enjoyed a rather elegant dinner out last night, with both of us drinking a bit too much – wine pairings can be fun, but dangerous! But WOW, did he look dapper, all dressed up!
Towards the end of the night, in a slightly inebriated state, I asked TC how I should introduce him today – I was bringing him to an event where he was likely to meet some of my friends. At first he joked, what about “gentleman caller”? Or “lov-ah” – but you have to say it like that, “LOV-AH”! (yes, he's the joking type) He soon admitted that recently, in conversations with some of his friends, it felt natural for him to refer to me as his “girlfriend”, since we’ve already established that we’re only dating one another, and he’s “enjoying the progression of the relationship”.
As far as that last line -- at least I THINK that's what he said! I know he used the word “relationship”, and even in the moment, I found myself wishing I had a tape recorder so I could remember exactly what he was saying. Damn wine, doing fuzzy things to the memory!
Today at the event, when the moment came for me to introduce him to a group of friends (acquaintances, really), I quickly said, “This is my boyfriend, [TC]”. (I had to say it quickly, for fear that I'd choke on the words!) I’m not sure how much he remembered of last night’s conversation, but he didn’t seem at all fazed by the intro. I’m not sure if I’m really ready to jump into full “boyfriend / girlfriend” jargon (we’ve only been dating a little over a month), but I think if we ease into it like a warm bath, that will be the most natural way to go.
It’s been in the back of my mind: when / how to tell him about the blog? This blog has been an amazing source of catharsis for me these past 10 months – when I was having my most depressing and frustrating dating experiences, I found out through reader comments (and other bloggers) that I’m certainly not alone in these feelings. And I even made a Real Live Friend though our blogs, Cute Jewess.
I think I’ll know when the time is right – and it’s not just yet. TC is a pretty open-minded and laid-back guy (two of the many things I like about him)… and I sense that he’ll be nonplussed when I tell him about the blog. Eventually.
A Married Man Needs Only 3 Things From His Wife
I Am Not The Caretaker of My Marriage
10 Guilty Pleasures For Couples
The Man Behind How I Have It All
14 Ways Having Kids Affects Your Relationship
Love Rewards the Brave
The Book That Changed the Way I Look at Love
When Divorce Runs in the Family
The Silence That Can Save Your Relationship
Is It Ever OK to Lie to Your Spouse?
Good news: I managed to lose 2.4 lbs this past week, bringing me back to my most recent low weight of 132.8 – big celebration! (confirms that last week’s gain was indeed most likely due to PMS – thanks for all your knowing words of support!).
Now – got to keep this loss moving along. 130 is a big hurdle I haven’t crossed in years, so that’s my current goal – to jump that hurdle!
It’s been a fun weekend, with lots of TC time. We enjoyed a rather elegant dinner out last night, with both of us drinking a bit too much – wine pairings can be fun, but dangerous! But WOW, did he look dapper, all dressed up!
Towards the end of the night, in a slightly inebriated state, I asked TC how I should introduce him today – I was bringing him to an event where he was likely to meet some of my friends. At first he joked, what about “gentleman caller”? Or “lov-ah” – but you have to say it like that, “LOV-AH”! (yes, he's the joking type) He soon admitted that recently, in conversations with some of his friends, it felt natural for him to refer to me as his “girlfriend”, since we’ve already established that we’re only dating one another, and he’s “enjoying the progression of the relationship”.
As far as that last line -- at least I THINK that's what he said! I know he used the word “relationship”, and even in the moment, I found myself wishing I had a tape recorder so I could remember exactly what he was saying. Damn wine, doing fuzzy things to the memory!
Today at the event, when the moment came for me to introduce him to a group of friends (acquaintances, really), I quickly said, “This is my boyfriend, [TC]”. (I had to say it quickly, for fear that I'd choke on the words!) I’m not sure how much he remembered of last night’s conversation, but he didn’t seem at all fazed by the intro. I’m not sure if I’m really ready to jump into full “boyfriend / girlfriend” jargon (we’ve only been dating a little over a month), but I think if we ease into it like a warm bath, that will be the most natural way to go.
It’s been in the back of my mind: when / how to tell him about the blog? This blog has been an amazing source of catharsis for me these past 10 months – when I was having my most depressing and frustrating dating experiences, I found out through reader comments (and other bloggers) that I’m certainly not alone in these feelings. And I even made a Real Live Friend though our blogs, Cute Jewess.
I think I’ll know when the time is right – and it’s not just yet. TC is a pretty open-minded and laid-back guy (two of the many things I like about him)… and I sense that he’ll be nonplussed when I tell him about the blog. Eventually.
Début de l'événement
10.04.2023
Fin de l'événement
10.04.2023
Table ronde « Les Etats Généraux des Migrations »
Description
Cette journée EGM est mise en place par le Collectif d’associations ligérienne PAR « Pour que personne ne dorme à la rue » (environ 25 associations ou collectifs). personnealarue@orange.fr
Une journée pour se rencontrer, faire connaissance avec les autres associations, partager nos expériences et nos difficultés, écouter la parole de migrants …et mettre du lien entre nous pour que nos voix portent un peu ...
Stands associatifs, tables rondes, repas sur réservation, concert ...
Une journée pour se rencontrer, faire connaissance avec les autres associations, partager nos expériences et nos difficultés, écouter la parole de migrants …et mettre du lien entre nous pour que nos voix portent un peu ...
Stands associatifs, tables rondes, repas sur réservation, concert ...
Début de l'événement
15.11.2025 - 09:00
Fin de l'événement
15.11.2025 - 17:00
Adresse url
https://untoitcesttout.org/?p=756
Adresse
Salle Montagnon, Av Maurice Thorez
Code postal
42183
Ville
La Ricamarie
the flaws in my marriage.
Description
The Top 10 White Lies People Tell In Online Dating Profiles
Things I Wish I Knew About Dating When I Was 22
8 Reasons You’re Single
Let’s Talk About Negging
What Are Your Pre-Date Nerves?
10 Things You Should Never Say To A Man In Bed
8 Things Men Want Women To Do In Bed
9 Things I Dread About Dating
I Wasn’t Jewish Enough
I’m not going to talk morality as this is a subjective issue. I know that if my wife found out it would devastate her. So I am careful. Extremely careful. My relationships are with married women who also have much to lose so discretion is mutually advantageous. I draw the line at friends or anyone likely to be in our social circle. This matters because it dramatically reduces the chances of my being caught and should I be caught would dramatically reduce the social impact upon my wife. I love her and don’t want her to feel the devastation that knowledge of my infidelity would bring. Some may find this self-serving and they may be right. I know that my kids have a loving family home and are growing up so proficient at life it is at times embarrassing and I would do everything for them. The truth is my infidelity ensures this situation continues. Without it I would be amplifying the stresses that my marriage (and I don’t think I’m alone here…) has with possibly terminal consequences for it and the stability and love that my kids so clearly thrive on.
So I am clearly vulnerable to the accusation that all this does is reveal the flaws in my marriage. That may be so, but it remains just an accusation. I know and see the reality and my infidelity makes me a better husband and father despite the paradox that many moralists would see in this statement.
Thanks for reading.
Anon6 years agoReply
Another well thought out and well written comment on this exceptionally interesting board. May I ask what is the specialist website you’re referring to? Ashley Madison (which I find highly suspect)? Or another?
I’m in a very similar situation although I have had affairs with single women whom I knew were trustworthy. The key was letting them know that I had no interest in leaving my wife to prevent them from getting ideas in their heads about future marriage. Single women are also safer because I need not worry about (potentially dangerous) jealous husbands. But there is no question that other married people is a much safer approach. And I fully believe that your affairs make your marriage a better and happier one. If I couldn’t have something discreet and fun on the side there is simply no way I could stay in my marriage.
Things I Wish I Knew About Dating When I Was 22
8 Reasons You’re Single
Let’s Talk About Negging
What Are Your Pre-Date Nerves?
10 Things You Should Never Say To A Man In Bed
8 Things Men Want Women To Do In Bed
9 Things I Dread About Dating
I Wasn’t Jewish Enough
I’m not going to talk morality as this is a subjective issue. I know that if my wife found out it would devastate her. So I am careful. Extremely careful. My relationships are with married women who also have much to lose so discretion is mutually advantageous. I draw the line at friends or anyone likely to be in our social circle. This matters because it dramatically reduces the chances of my being caught and should I be caught would dramatically reduce the social impact upon my wife. I love her and don’t want her to feel the devastation that knowledge of my infidelity would bring. Some may find this self-serving and they may be right. I know that my kids have a loving family home and are growing up so proficient at life it is at times embarrassing and I would do everything for them. The truth is my infidelity ensures this situation continues. Without it I would be amplifying the stresses that my marriage (and I don’t think I’m alone here…) has with possibly terminal consequences for it and the stability and love that my kids so clearly thrive on.
So I am clearly vulnerable to the accusation that all this does is reveal the flaws in my marriage. That may be so, but it remains just an accusation. I know and see the reality and my infidelity makes me a better husband and father despite the paradox that many moralists would see in this statement.
Thanks for reading.
Anon6 years agoReply
Another well thought out and well written comment on this exceptionally interesting board. May I ask what is the specialist website you’re referring to? Ashley Madison (which I find highly suspect)? Or another?
I’m in a very similar situation although I have had affairs with single women whom I knew were trustworthy. The key was letting them know that I had no interest in leaving my wife to prevent them from getting ideas in their heads about future marriage. Single women are also safer because I need not worry about (potentially dangerous) jealous husbands. But there is no question that other married people is a much safer approach. And I fully believe that your affairs make your marriage a better and happier one. If I couldn’t have something discreet and fun on the side there is simply no way I could stay in my marriage.
Début de l'événement
25.02.2022
Fin de l'événement
25.02.2022
The Husband List
Description
The Surprisingly Solid Dating Advice From Kanye West
How To Please Your Mate
Rearranging The Deck Chairs On The Titanic of Love
Ridiculous Dating Advice That’s Totally True
Things Men Do That Women Probably Hate
Things I Think I’d Hate About Women If I Were a Man
What Single People Get Wrong About Marriage
Chicken Livers and Relationship Drama
Why Splitting Costs Isn't Splitting Love
The Instant Turn-Offs That Will Get You Cut Off
So, what exactly makes a guy “husband material”? What characteristics do women look for when they’re handing out that “lifetime partner” label? Seems like it’s not as cut-and-dried as some might think, and to be honest, the criteria aren’t as complicated as they’re made out to be.
Men have the “wifey-type” designation all figured out, but women? Women act like they’ve got a 12-page manifesto when it comes to selecting a husband. So, let’s break it down and strip away all the nonsense, shall we? I’m going to give you the top three things women secretly look for in a guy they can lock down. Grab a pen; this is important.
Morning Competence Let's be real: most men, if asked, would say they want someone who looks stunning at all times—preferably in a string bikini while holding a baby goat or something. But women? They’re looking for something else. It’s about waking up next to someone who doesn’t look like they just emerged from a swamp, sure, but who also doesn’t ruin the vibe by immediately demanding coffee and a full-on “guy friend” pep talk. A husband doesn’t need to look like a model at 7 a.m., but he better not be a trainwreck either. Women like a dude who’s got his stuff together first thing in the morning—whether it’s because he can actually get out of bed without groaning like he’s in a death metal band or because he’s got a game plan for the day. If you wake up, have a coffee, and start talking about your fantasy football league before your feet hit the floor? You’re probably not husband material.
Being Unfussy Here's the thing: no woman wants a high-maintenance man. If you're the guy who wants five-course meals every night, can’t handle a little dust on the coffee table, or has a list of demands that could rival an A-list celebrity’s green room, you’re toast. A true “husband” can roll with the punches. He doesn’t have a meltdown over missing socks or complain about the temperature of his food. The "I’m just here for the ride" attitude is one of the most underrated qualities in a guy. Because, let’s face it, no woman wants to spend the next 50 years of her life asking, "Why is your shampoo bottle always in the middle of the shower?" Keep it simple, keep it chill, and you'll probably make it on her husband list.
The Ray Allen Syndrome Much like men appreciate a “wifey-type” who can play a supporting role and shine in her own right, women look for a husband who’s willing to put his ego aside for the greater good. In sports terms, think of Ray Allen. The guy went from being an all-star to playing a diminished role in order to help his team win a championship. That’s what women want from a husband. They don’t need the guy who’s obsessed with being the “star of the show” or the center of attention all the time. What they need is the man who knows how to step up when necessary, but can also chill in the background and let his wife take the lead when the situation calls for it. It’s the difference between being a solo act and part of a team. And believe me, if you can rock the "I’m in it for the team" mentality, you’re more likely to snag a ring than a guy who’s too busy trying to be the next big thing on Instagram.
Of course, there are a ton of other qualities that play into the “husband material” discussion—things like loyalty, emotional availability, and, let’s be real, not looking like a total mess after a bad day. But if you don’t nail the basics—morning competence, the ability to stay unfussy, and not being obsessed with your own shine—you’re probably not making the list.
So, next time you're wondering why your “husband potential” is being questioned, take a good look in the mirror. If you’re still struggling with your wardrobe, or you think your bachelor pad is a good enough substitute for a real home, you’ve got a lot of work to do. Until then, maybe dial back the whole “she’ll just have to love me for who I am” approach. A woman will love you, but only if you're, you know, capable of being a functioning adult who knows how to handle the basics.
And remember, fellas: no woman’s going to want to spend the rest of her life with a guy who’s still trying to figure out how to operate a dishwasher.
How To Please Your Mate
Rearranging The Deck Chairs On The Titanic of Love
Ridiculous Dating Advice That’s Totally True
Things Men Do That Women Probably Hate
Things I Think I’d Hate About Women If I Were a Man
What Single People Get Wrong About Marriage
Chicken Livers and Relationship Drama
Why Splitting Costs Isn't Splitting Love
The Instant Turn-Offs That Will Get You Cut Off
So, what exactly makes a guy “husband material”? What characteristics do women look for when they’re handing out that “lifetime partner” label? Seems like it’s not as cut-and-dried as some might think, and to be honest, the criteria aren’t as complicated as they’re made out to be.
Men have the “wifey-type” designation all figured out, but women? Women act like they’ve got a 12-page manifesto when it comes to selecting a husband. So, let’s break it down and strip away all the nonsense, shall we? I’m going to give you the top three things women secretly look for in a guy they can lock down. Grab a pen; this is important.
Morning Competence Let's be real: most men, if asked, would say they want someone who looks stunning at all times—preferably in a string bikini while holding a baby goat or something. But women? They’re looking for something else. It’s about waking up next to someone who doesn’t look like they just emerged from a swamp, sure, but who also doesn’t ruin the vibe by immediately demanding coffee and a full-on “guy friend” pep talk. A husband doesn’t need to look like a model at 7 a.m., but he better not be a trainwreck either. Women like a dude who’s got his stuff together first thing in the morning—whether it’s because he can actually get out of bed without groaning like he’s in a death metal band or because he’s got a game plan for the day. If you wake up, have a coffee, and start talking about your fantasy football league before your feet hit the floor? You’re probably not husband material.
Being Unfussy Here's the thing: no woman wants a high-maintenance man. If you're the guy who wants five-course meals every night, can’t handle a little dust on the coffee table, or has a list of demands that could rival an A-list celebrity’s green room, you’re toast. A true “husband” can roll with the punches. He doesn’t have a meltdown over missing socks or complain about the temperature of his food. The "I’m just here for the ride" attitude is one of the most underrated qualities in a guy. Because, let’s face it, no woman wants to spend the next 50 years of her life asking, "Why is your shampoo bottle always in the middle of the shower?" Keep it simple, keep it chill, and you'll probably make it on her husband list.
The Ray Allen Syndrome Much like men appreciate a “wifey-type” who can play a supporting role and shine in her own right, women look for a husband who’s willing to put his ego aside for the greater good. In sports terms, think of Ray Allen. The guy went from being an all-star to playing a diminished role in order to help his team win a championship. That’s what women want from a husband. They don’t need the guy who’s obsessed with being the “star of the show” or the center of attention all the time. What they need is the man who knows how to step up when necessary, but can also chill in the background and let his wife take the lead when the situation calls for it. It’s the difference between being a solo act and part of a team. And believe me, if you can rock the "I’m in it for the team" mentality, you’re more likely to snag a ring than a guy who’s too busy trying to be the next big thing on Instagram.
Of course, there are a ton of other qualities that play into the “husband material” discussion—things like loyalty, emotional availability, and, let’s be real, not looking like a total mess after a bad day. But if you don’t nail the basics—morning competence, the ability to stay unfussy, and not being obsessed with your own shine—you’re probably not making the list.
So, next time you're wondering why your “husband potential” is being questioned, take a good look in the mirror. If you’re still struggling with your wardrobe, or you think your bachelor pad is a good enough substitute for a real home, you’ve got a lot of work to do. Until then, maybe dial back the whole “she’ll just have to love me for who I am” approach. A woman will love you, but only if you're, you know, capable of being a functioning adult who knows how to handle the basics.
And remember, fellas: no woman’s going to want to spend the rest of her life with a guy who’s still trying to figure out how to operate a dishwasher.
Début de l'événement
21.11.2021
Fin de l'événement
21.11.2021
The Journey from Self-Love to Finding Lasting Love
Description
The 5 Warning Signs Of A Bad Relationship
Stop Comparing Us To Aidan From Sex And The City!
The Truth About Women’s Dating Blogs
Is Bradley Cooper The Male Carrie Bradshaw?
My Low-Maintenance Dream Girl Wishlist
The Little Things Women Do That Turn Men On
Being A Bitch Can Save Your Love Life
Why Your Dating Standards Start with You
The Backlash of Fornication for Single Christians
Learn to Trust God’s Warnings in Relationships
10 Qualities Saved Sisters Seek in a Man
Overcoming Dating Angst as a Christian
My mom was very loving with my dad and very much the good little housewife she set a good example there. Her abusiveness was more in her jealousy of her daughters (mostly me)for his affection – it was weird.
I have been a somewhat screwed up because of all this but it’s been helpful the last few years to face what my growing up years were like and adding them up to the place I’d arrived at in lie.
I wrote a post on my blog way back in May which described some of the problems with my mom.
Great post Bhetti!
Hux PERMALINK
October 22, 2009 1:24 am
Parents’ divorce: check. When I was 3.
Brother’s shoplifting: no, but he did go to jail for drug trafficking.
Do girls typically look at a guy’s family like guys look at girls’ families?
aoefe PERMALINK
October 22, 2009 1:34 am
Hux I look at a guy’s relationship with his family. I don’t look at his mom so much but at the relationship he has with her. Does he speak highly of her? Or is he mommy’s little boy and not growed up yet? I look at their lifestyle to see how he was brought up and what values he was surrounded by more than any personality characteristic.
The Fifth Horseman PERMALINK
October 22, 2009 4:19 am
Stop Comparing Us To Aidan From Sex And The City!
The Truth About Women’s Dating Blogs
Is Bradley Cooper The Male Carrie Bradshaw?
My Low-Maintenance Dream Girl Wishlist
The Little Things Women Do That Turn Men On
Being A Bitch Can Save Your Love Life
Why Your Dating Standards Start with You
The Backlash of Fornication for Single Christians
Learn to Trust God’s Warnings in Relationships
10 Qualities Saved Sisters Seek in a Man
Overcoming Dating Angst as a Christian
My mom was very loving with my dad and very much the good little housewife she set a good example there. Her abusiveness was more in her jealousy of her daughters (mostly me)for his affection – it was weird.
I have been a somewhat screwed up because of all this but it’s been helpful the last few years to face what my growing up years were like and adding them up to the place I’d arrived at in lie.
I wrote a post on my blog way back in May which described some of the problems with my mom.
Great post Bhetti!
Hux PERMALINK
October 22, 2009 1:24 am
Parents’ divorce: check. When I was 3.
Brother’s shoplifting: no, but he did go to jail for drug trafficking.
Do girls typically look at a guy’s family like guys look at girls’ families?
aoefe PERMALINK
October 22, 2009 1:34 am
Hux I look at a guy’s relationship with his family. I don’t look at his mom so much but at the relationship he has with her. Does he speak highly of her? Or is he mommy’s little boy and not growed up yet? I look at their lifestyle to see how he was brought up and what values he was surrounded by more than any personality characteristic.
The Fifth Horseman PERMALINK
October 22, 2009 4:19 am
Début de l'événement
17.12.2022
Fin de l'événement
17.12.2022
When Your Marriage Feels Lonely: Rebuilding Intimacy and Connection.
Description
He Had an Affair Because I Stopped Initiating Sex
He Makes Me Feel Bad About Being Fat
He Lost Interest in Our Marriage
Saving A Marriage: He Lost His Job
He Lets His Mother Rule Our Lives and I'm Sick of It
Commitment Jitters
Love and Lust: When Chemistry Outruns Endurance
Bi Bi Love
Dealing With Your Partner’s Bedroom Confessions
Can His Squalor Be Squelched?
Asunder Down Under
Conquering Long Distance Dating
Coveting a Coworker
Sorry…. but having a pet, a house, a job, long-term friendships, and financial independence…ONLY shows that one is capable of committing to: an animal, house/mortgage, an employer, friends and their bank account. None of which means they will be a good boyfriend/husband or even be willing to take on that role at all.
Think about it: we’ve all known a ton of guys who fit this profile: mid-30s, athletic (has a dog that he goes running with), successful man, driven at his job (so he doesn’t job-hop) and makes good money (doesn’t need parental help) and invests that into the purchase of an apt/coop/condo/house, has the same friends that he met in high school and his college fraternity…has a different girl every night from when he is 25 until…as long as he still looks hot. He has had little to no relationships and has to desire to change that. But he hits every point on your list (as for the sycophants and emotional maturity, no one can know that until they get to know them but on paper he hits all your points)
We’ve all known this guy, probably at least 100 of them. And in NYC they are a dime a dozen. I’d almost venture to say that they are more the norm than not (although owning is tough but the same rental apt for 10 yrs is as good as owning in NYC as far as showing commitment…not bailing every time they raise the rent).
I am not saying that the guy who commits is a great guy or even a good guy. He could have numerous multi-year relationships under his belt but still be a shitbag and an awful, cheating, abusive boyfriend. Or maybe he’s just a lame, mediocre, ambivalent guy who tends to take his women for granted. Or maybe he’s actually a great boyfriend.
However, if all we are judging is one’s ability to commit (not their likelihood of being a good partner), then Mr. Shitbag does qualify as being more likely to commit. Although, any sane woman should run from him away as fast as she can.
He Makes Me Feel Bad About Being Fat
He Lost Interest in Our Marriage
Saving A Marriage: He Lost His Job
He Lets His Mother Rule Our Lives and I'm Sick of It
Commitment Jitters
Love and Lust: When Chemistry Outruns Endurance
Bi Bi Love
Dealing With Your Partner’s Bedroom Confessions
Can His Squalor Be Squelched?
Asunder Down Under
Conquering Long Distance Dating
Coveting a Coworker
Sorry…. but having a pet, a house, a job, long-term friendships, and financial independence…ONLY shows that one is capable of committing to: an animal, house/mortgage, an employer, friends and their bank account. None of which means they will be a good boyfriend/husband or even be willing to take on that role at all.
Think about it: we’ve all known a ton of guys who fit this profile: mid-30s, athletic (has a dog that he goes running with), successful man, driven at his job (so he doesn’t job-hop) and makes good money (doesn’t need parental help) and invests that into the purchase of an apt/coop/condo/house, has the same friends that he met in high school and his college fraternity…has a different girl every night from when he is 25 until…as long as he still looks hot. He has had little to no relationships and has to desire to change that. But he hits every point on your list (as for the sycophants and emotional maturity, no one can know that until they get to know them but on paper he hits all your points)
We’ve all known this guy, probably at least 100 of them. And in NYC they are a dime a dozen. I’d almost venture to say that they are more the norm than not (although owning is tough but the same rental apt for 10 yrs is as good as owning in NYC as far as showing commitment…not bailing every time they raise the rent).
I am not saying that the guy who commits is a great guy or even a good guy. He could have numerous multi-year relationships under his belt but still be a shitbag and an awful, cheating, abusive boyfriend. Or maybe he’s just a lame, mediocre, ambivalent guy who tends to take his women for granted. Or maybe he’s actually a great boyfriend.
However, if all we are judging is one’s ability to commit (not their likelihood of being a good partner), then Mr. Shitbag does qualify as being more likely to commit. Although, any sane woman should run from him away as fast as she can.
Début de l'événement
18.03.2023
Fin de l'événement
18.03.2023
White Lies
Description
He Went to War and Came Back a Changed Man
Unmasking Hidden Unhappiness in Marriage
Workaholic Heartbreak: When Success Costs Your Marriage
Recession Realities: When Financial Stress Tests a Marriage
When Unemployment Tests Marriage
Movies That All Women Should See To Understand Men
Love Lies and Responsibility
The Dating Mishaps of the Ladies of Love Twenty
The Black Male Preference Privilege
Anatomy of a Great (Reality) Relationship
Your Rear End or Your Pride
Why Splitting Costs Isn't Splitting Love
(Broken) Laws of Attraction
I think that we look back on relationships, ex’s, and lovers with a distorted lens. So frequently, at least for my friends and me, we’ll leave unhappy relationships only to look back and say “He really wasn’t that bad. He had his sweet moments when he did special little things.” When more often than not those special little things (flowers, cards, small gifts) were fabrications told to our friends to justify being with somebody who preferred gaming, drinking, and time with friends over spending time with you. White lies told to friends so they didn’t tell us to leave him for being no good for us. Why didn’t we want to leave him? Simple, we’d already told ourselves a thousand little lies to make him our “dream man” and we couldn’t possibly leave a man with so much potential! (Read previous blog: “falling in love with potential)
This projecting doesn’t just end with men though. Sometimes a woman will lie to herself about how appreciated she is at work. Inside we know that we aren’t being paid enough but if anyone asks we will tell them, “Oh, they know they would be lost without me.” In truth, they might be lost without you, but they are still blindly ignorant of this fact.
There are so many aspects that we will lie to ourselves and others about. We will pretend to be in a better place financially before admitting to others that we may not be able to afford the same things as them. We will talk up our important at work, within relationships, etc to give us more worth. These small exaggerations are still lies. They make us feel better about things we may have insecurities about. Sometimes we lie to make ourselves sound more exciting to others, maybe add some titillating details to a night that didn’t actual occur. They start out so innocent, but they have a way of getting away from us.
I sometimes realize I’m doing this, and sometimes I don’t. I don’t know why I feel the need to exaggerate things…things with no real meaning. I’m not making up that instead of saying, “I had a great night tonight, Jewels.” He really said, “This was the best night of my life and I think I might be in love with you.” I don’t go overboard with things…but that’s not the point…why do I do this at all!?
“The most common lie is that which one lies to himself; lying to others is relatively an exception.” Friedrich Nietzsche
A friend of mine thinks it’s because I’m white and all white people lie. I’m not sure how valid this is. Maybe it has something to do with having such an awesome imagination that I feel guilty not using it. Either way…I’m not sure that I’m hurting anyone…except maybe myself. You are probably reading this now wondering how honest I have been while writing this, and previous, blog entries. I promise you that I have not lied, exaggerated, or fabricated any of my blogs. This is meant to be an honest and frank journal for myself and lying here would be totally counterproductive. So rest easy, Reader, and know that what you read here is nothing more than the honest and often random ramblings of a woman finding her way in the world.
So I guess my question to you is: Do you do this too? Have you stopped short when telling a story when you realized “Why did I just say that? That didn’t actually happen!?” Have you found yourself in a tangle of little lies that added up? Do you lie to yourself about your job, relationship, and your own feelings? It’s not an easy thing to realize…that even if my lies hurt nobody…I’m still a liar. Ugh…how awful!
Unmasking Hidden Unhappiness in Marriage
Workaholic Heartbreak: When Success Costs Your Marriage
Recession Realities: When Financial Stress Tests a Marriage
When Unemployment Tests Marriage
Movies That All Women Should See To Understand Men
Love Lies and Responsibility
The Dating Mishaps of the Ladies of Love Twenty
The Black Male Preference Privilege
Anatomy of a Great (Reality) Relationship
Your Rear End or Your Pride
Why Splitting Costs Isn't Splitting Love
(Broken) Laws of Attraction
I think that we look back on relationships, ex’s, and lovers with a distorted lens. So frequently, at least for my friends and me, we’ll leave unhappy relationships only to look back and say “He really wasn’t that bad. He had his sweet moments when he did special little things.” When more often than not those special little things (flowers, cards, small gifts) were fabrications told to our friends to justify being with somebody who preferred gaming, drinking, and time with friends over spending time with you. White lies told to friends so they didn’t tell us to leave him for being no good for us. Why didn’t we want to leave him? Simple, we’d already told ourselves a thousand little lies to make him our “dream man” and we couldn’t possibly leave a man with so much potential! (Read previous blog: “falling in love with potential)
This projecting doesn’t just end with men though. Sometimes a woman will lie to herself about how appreciated she is at work. Inside we know that we aren’t being paid enough but if anyone asks we will tell them, “Oh, they know they would be lost without me.” In truth, they might be lost without you, but they are still blindly ignorant of this fact.
There are so many aspects that we will lie to ourselves and others about. We will pretend to be in a better place financially before admitting to others that we may not be able to afford the same things as them. We will talk up our important at work, within relationships, etc to give us more worth. These small exaggerations are still lies. They make us feel better about things we may have insecurities about. Sometimes we lie to make ourselves sound more exciting to others, maybe add some titillating details to a night that didn’t actual occur. They start out so innocent, but they have a way of getting away from us.
I sometimes realize I’m doing this, and sometimes I don’t. I don’t know why I feel the need to exaggerate things…things with no real meaning. I’m not making up that instead of saying, “I had a great night tonight, Jewels.” He really said, “This was the best night of my life and I think I might be in love with you.” I don’t go overboard with things…but that’s not the point…why do I do this at all!?
“The most common lie is that which one lies to himself; lying to others is relatively an exception.” Friedrich Nietzsche
A friend of mine thinks it’s because I’m white and all white people lie. I’m not sure how valid this is. Maybe it has something to do with having such an awesome imagination that I feel guilty not using it. Either way…I’m not sure that I’m hurting anyone…except maybe myself. You are probably reading this now wondering how honest I have been while writing this, and previous, blog entries. I promise you that I have not lied, exaggerated, or fabricated any of my blogs. This is meant to be an honest and frank journal for myself and lying here would be totally counterproductive. So rest easy, Reader, and know that what you read here is nothing more than the honest and often random ramblings of a woman finding her way in the world.
So I guess my question to you is: Do you do this too? Have you stopped short when telling a story when you realized “Why did I just say that? That didn’t actually happen!?” Have you found yourself in a tangle of little lies that added up? Do you lie to yourself about your job, relationship, and your own feelings? It’s not an easy thing to realize…that even if my lies hurt nobody…I’m still a liar. Ugh…how awful!
Début de l'événement
20.03.2022
Fin de l'événement
20.03.2022
Why My Friendship Bracelet Means So Much To Me
Description
Why Is Self-Esteem Important For Dating?
Top Free and Paid Online Dating Websites
Seizing New Dating Opportunities
The Perfect Movie Date at Home
Single Men Don’t Have Body Image Issues
What Makes a Good Man or a Good Woman?
Equating ‘Sexuality’ with Male Sexuality
Why in the World Would I Ever Get Married?
How Jealousy Can Work For Us
The Catalano Generation is Revolutionizing Dating
Mexico City's Short-Term Marriage Proposal
Even in Relationship You’re All Alone
I Lack the Commitment Gene
Stop Crying and Be a Man
I’ll take a homemade gift over a store-bought one any day of the week.
I was given a friendship bracelet the other day by a close friend who is in town for a visit. She’s someone I rarely keep in contact with, but someone who I know is always there for me if I need it. I don’t recall the last time I was given a friendship bracelet that someone actually made themselves. In any case, I know that I was never able to fully appreciate what it meant in the past.
As she tied the four-coloured bracelet on my left wrist, I thought about her thinking of me. Her thinking of me and sitting down with these pieces of string, meticulously twining them together to produce this token of friendship. It made me feel good. This idea that someone you may or may not be thinking of (maybe haven’t even thought of them in a very long time) is hundreds of miles away thinking of you and making something tangible to express it.
The sentiment floors me.
To accord with this tradition, the giver must tie the bracelet on the arm of the receiver and it must be left to fall off naturally.
I’ve never really understood what a friendship bracelet is; where they came from. Wikipedia tells me that it’s a custom that has its roots in Native American culture, specifically the Central American tradition. To accord with this tradition, the giver must tie the bracelet on the arm of the receiver and it must be left to fall off naturally.
Removing the bracelet before this happens signals that the friendship has taken a turn for the worst. The article also described a variation on the tradition, where the receiver makes a wish when given it, and when the bracelet falls off the wish will come true.
I think maybe my favourite aspect of these is that it’s a global custom; there are many cultures that observe this practice. When my ex-wife and I were in Oaxaca, Mexico last year she bought me one made by the indigenous people in the area. Perhaps understandably, I took it off while we were going through our break-up. I’m glad I kept it though, because as our friendship has strengthened I feel it’s something that can again tie us together.
I only wish she were here to tie it back on.
Top Free and Paid Online Dating Websites
Seizing New Dating Opportunities
The Perfect Movie Date at Home
Single Men Don’t Have Body Image Issues
What Makes a Good Man or a Good Woman?
Equating ‘Sexuality’ with Male Sexuality
Why in the World Would I Ever Get Married?
How Jealousy Can Work For Us
The Catalano Generation is Revolutionizing Dating
Mexico City's Short-Term Marriage Proposal
Even in Relationship You’re All Alone
I Lack the Commitment Gene
Stop Crying and Be a Man
I’ll take a homemade gift over a store-bought one any day of the week.
I was given a friendship bracelet the other day by a close friend who is in town for a visit. She’s someone I rarely keep in contact with, but someone who I know is always there for me if I need it. I don’t recall the last time I was given a friendship bracelet that someone actually made themselves. In any case, I know that I was never able to fully appreciate what it meant in the past.
As she tied the four-coloured bracelet on my left wrist, I thought about her thinking of me. Her thinking of me and sitting down with these pieces of string, meticulously twining them together to produce this token of friendship. It made me feel good. This idea that someone you may or may not be thinking of (maybe haven’t even thought of them in a very long time) is hundreds of miles away thinking of you and making something tangible to express it.
The sentiment floors me.
To accord with this tradition, the giver must tie the bracelet on the arm of the receiver and it must be left to fall off naturally.
I’ve never really understood what a friendship bracelet is; where they came from. Wikipedia tells me that it’s a custom that has its roots in Native American culture, specifically the Central American tradition. To accord with this tradition, the giver must tie the bracelet on the arm of the receiver and it must be left to fall off naturally.
Removing the bracelet before this happens signals that the friendship has taken a turn for the worst. The article also described a variation on the tradition, where the receiver makes a wish when given it, and when the bracelet falls off the wish will come true.
I think maybe my favourite aspect of these is that it’s a global custom; there are many cultures that observe this practice. When my ex-wife and I were in Oaxaca, Mexico last year she bought me one made by the indigenous people in the area. Perhaps understandably, I took it off while we were going through our break-up. I’m glad I kept it though, because as our friendship has strengthened I feel it’s something that can again tie us together.
I only wish she were here to tie it back on.
Début de l'événement
10.01.2022
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10.01.2022
Yeswikiday
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Une journée pour faire avancer le projet Yeswiki dans la bonne humeur
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30.04.2020 - 09:00
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30.04.2020 - 16:00
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Un événement autour du vin, c'est pour cela qu'il est à Bordeaux...
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08.01.2020
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10.01.2020
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Bordeaux
Your Stories: Facing STDs
Description
When Do You Walk Away
It Is All Facebook’s Fault…
How To Be Single at Your 10 Year Reunion
Are One Night Stands Bad?
The Truth About Free Dating Sites
Writing Good Loveawake.com Emails
Taking it Slow vs Taking it Nowhere
26 Things I’ve Learned About Dating
Being Selfish in A Relationship
Signs of a Douchebag
Rules for a Skype Date
Talking about STDs is never easy. But having the discussion may be necessary not only for your health, but the health of your relationships and family.
Sexually transmitted diseases impact more than just the physical body of the person who contracts one. They impact self-esteem and self-worth, relationships, and can cause stress, anxiety, and sometimes extreme health scares.
We decided to take a look at STDs during the month of March because even though a majority of people will experience some form of a sexually transmitted disease during their lifetime, they are very much stigmatized. This is particularly true for those that “show themselves” – such as genital warts, which come from the most common STD, HPV.
The more that we talk about the reality of STDs, the less stigma that will remain. And the more we are open with ourselves and our partners about these uncomfortable subjects, the more we unearth other issues lurking under the surface.
Here are our two favorite pieces that were submitted for this month’s topic. Thanks to everyone who submitted their story:
An STD Affair
A couple in their mid-forties with two children came to me with some very typical issues at their stage of married life. She wanted to improve their communication and was seeking more attentiveness from her husband. He was working long hours and under much pressure at the office; he was looking for some downtime at home, and less scheduled social activities by his wife.
We began our work on these issues. After several sessions, I received a call from the wife asking for an individual session. In that session, in which she was in tears throughout, she told me about a recent visit to her gynecologist when she learned she had an STD. It had to have been passed on from her husband. She was truly in shock and disbelief and didn’t know how she should proceed with this information.
We determined that it would be best for her to sit down calmly with her husband that evening. She would explain her doctor’s appointment, and allow him to respond and ‘share’ how this could have happened. Much to her surprise, he broke down immediately, crying.
He said that he had been wanting to tell her about an affair and could only assume that that was how she had contracted an STD. The affair was short-lived, three months, and had ended several months before.
He said that he had been wanting to tell her about an affair.
During the next session, and many more, we worked through all the kind of issues that surrounded such an affair. The husband was desperate that this behavior not ruin his marriage and family, and was eager to do whatever would help his wife and his marriage.
He was someone who found it quite difficult to have lived with a lie, and now to live with the emotional and physical pain he had caused his wife. He was truly regretful.
In this case, an STD actually allowed for all the truth to be out on the table, probably more quickly than might otherwise have happened. It forced the couple to deal head-on with the underlying issues of what had occurred in their marriage. They worked for a year in therapy and are one of those fortunate couples who feel that they are now more connected than ever before.
- Sharon Gilchrest O’Neill, Ed.S., LMFT, USA
A Short Guide to a Happy Marriage
Bad News Pap
Since I was 15, I’ve always gone to the doctor for a pap. They all came back normal until one in 2007. This test showed some odd cells, but my husband and I had had sex the day before. I told my doc and he said that would do it.
Photo: morrissey
The following year when I went back for my pap the results were abnormal. They referred me to a gynecologist to do some procedure I’d never heard of and didn’t tell me any thing other than my pap was abnormal.
So my husband and I arrive at the doctor the following week, and she asked if I understood what an abnormal pap smear was. I didn’t. She told me it meant I had HPV – the type that can cause cervical cancer. I started crying hysterically. She asked if there was anything else – like if I’d cheated, I assumed – but I had been with my husband and only husband since fall 2003. All my paps from then until 2008 had been normal. She told me that HPV can lay dormant in your system for years, although it’s not common.
I eventually calmed down and she performed a colposcopy – where a sliver of the cervix is cut off so the cells can be examined to see if there is any evidence of cancer – while my husband held my hand and wiped my tears. I can’t quite describe it, and really, I’ve blotted it out of my memory.
They told me it would take a few days to get the results back and they would call me. The gyno said that she was pretty sure that on a scale of 0 to 10 with 0 being no cancer and 10 being cancer, I would be at a 2 or 3. I remember walking to the car with my husband crying uncontrollably – I hurt, was cramping, bleeding, felt dirty and was confused as to how the fuck this was never noticed. My husband reminded me to wait till I got the results before I jumped to conclusions.
A week late, the office calls. The gyno told me she had my results and she was surprised. Instead of being a 2 or 3 on the “cancer scale” I was a 9! Needless to say I was freaking out. I was devastated. I was scared.
I was then told I needed to get a LEEP, and I decided to go to a different doctor. My husband went with me to the procedure. Basically, they take an electric wire and cut the tip of your cervix off to remove the cancer cells.
If I would have waited even a few months longer to have a pap, I may have fully had cervical cancer.
Luckily novocaine is used before they cauterized my cervix! It really didn’t hurt…until the novocaine wore off. It smelled like burning flesh. My husband made jokes and kept me laughing the whole time. The gynecologist was amazing! This GYN had all my previous paperwork so she was able to know what was going on.
When the results came back, it turned out to be 9.5 on cancer scale. If I would have waited even a few months longer to have a pap, I may have fully had cervical cancer.
Some things I’ve learned since all this shit happened: there are many strains of HPV, types that cause cancer and types that cause warts. Males can carry HPV and not know it, and there are no tests to check males.
I may not be able to have children or carry them to term (luckily I don’t want them). I think I know who gave it to me, but I’m not sure. Condoms don’t protect fully against HPV. And it is much more common than you think to have HPV, unfortunately.
I had to have a pap done ever 6 months until I had 3 in a row that came back normal. This past December 2011 was when I was officially given a letter that I could resume yearly pap smears.
- Michelle, USA
It Is All Facebook’s Fault…
How To Be Single at Your 10 Year Reunion
Are One Night Stands Bad?
The Truth About Free Dating Sites
Writing Good Loveawake.com Emails
Taking it Slow vs Taking it Nowhere
26 Things I’ve Learned About Dating
Being Selfish in A Relationship
Signs of a Douchebag
Rules for a Skype Date
Talking about STDs is never easy. But having the discussion may be necessary not only for your health, but the health of your relationships and family.
Sexually transmitted diseases impact more than just the physical body of the person who contracts one. They impact self-esteem and self-worth, relationships, and can cause stress, anxiety, and sometimes extreme health scares.
We decided to take a look at STDs during the month of March because even though a majority of people will experience some form of a sexually transmitted disease during their lifetime, they are very much stigmatized. This is particularly true for those that “show themselves” – such as genital warts, which come from the most common STD, HPV.
The more that we talk about the reality of STDs, the less stigma that will remain. And the more we are open with ourselves and our partners about these uncomfortable subjects, the more we unearth other issues lurking under the surface.
Here are our two favorite pieces that were submitted for this month’s topic. Thanks to everyone who submitted their story:
An STD Affair
A couple in their mid-forties with two children came to me with some very typical issues at their stage of married life. She wanted to improve their communication and was seeking more attentiveness from her husband. He was working long hours and under much pressure at the office; he was looking for some downtime at home, and less scheduled social activities by his wife.
We began our work on these issues. After several sessions, I received a call from the wife asking for an individual session. In that session, in which she was in tears throughout, she told me about a recent visit to her gynecologist when she learned she had an STD. It had to have been passed on from her husband. She was truly in shock and disbelief and didn’t know how she should proceed with this information.
We determined that it would be best for her to sit down calmly with her husband that evening. She would explain her doctor’s appointment, and allow him to respond and ‘share’ how this could have happened. Much to her surprise, he broke down immediately, crying.
He said that he had been wanting to tell her about an affair and could only assume that that was how she had contracted an STD. The affair was short-lived, three months, and had ended several months before.
He said that he had been wanting to tell her about an affair.
During the next session, and many more, we worked through all the kind of issues that surrounded such an affair. The husband was desperate that this behavior not ruin his marriage and family, and was eager to do whatever would help his wife and his marriage.
He was someone who found it quite difficult to have lived with a lie, and now to live with the emotional and physical pain he had caused his wife. He was truly regretful.
In this case, an STD actually allowed for all the truth to be out on the table, probably more quickly than might otherwise have happened. It forced the couple to deal head-on with the underlying issues of what had occurred in their marriage. They worked for a year in therapy and are one of those fortunate couples who feel that they are now more connected than ever before.
- Sharon Gilchrest O’Neill, Ed.S., LMFT, USA
A Short Guide to a Happy Marriage
Bad News Pap
Since I was 15, I’ve always gone to the doctor for a pap. They all came back normal until one in 2007. This test showed some odd cells, but my husband and I had had sex the day before. I told my doc and he said that would do it.
Photo: morrissey
The following year when I went back for my pap the results were abnormal. They referred me to a gynecologist to do some procedure I’d never heard of and didn’t tell me any thing other than my pap was abnormal.
So my husband and I arrive at the doctor the following week, and she asked if I understood what an abnormal pap smear was. I didn’t. She told me it meant I had HPV – the type that can cause cervical cancer. I started crying hysterically. She asked if there was anything else – like if I’d cheated, I assumed – but I had been with my husband and only husband since fall 2003. All my paps from then until 2008 had been normal. She told me that HPV can lay dormant in your system for years, although it’s not common.
I eventually calmed down and she performed a colposcopy – where a sliver of the cervix is cut off so the cells can be examined to see if there is any evidence of cancer – while my husband held my hand and wiped my tears. I can’t quite describe it, and really, I’ve blotted it out of my memory.
They told me it would take a few days to get the results back and they would call me. The gyno said that she was pretty sure that on a scale of 0 to 10 with 0 being no cancer and 10 being cancer, I would be at a 2 or 3. I remember walking to the car with my husband crying uncontrollably – I hurt, was cramping, bleeding, felt dirty and was confused as to how the fuck this was never noticed. My husband reminded me to wait till I got the results before I jumped to conclusions.
A week late, the office calls. The gyno told me she had my results and she was surprised. Instead of being a 2 or 3 on the “cancer scale” I was a 9! Needless to say I was freaking out. I was devastated. I was scared.
I was then told I needed to get a LEEP, and I decided to go to a different doctor. My husband went with me to the procedure. Basically, they take an electric wire and cut the tip of your cervix off to remove the cancer cells.
If I would have waited even a few months longer to have a pap, I may have fully had cervical cancer.
Luckily novocaine is used before they cauterized my cervix! It really didn’t hurt…until the novocaine wore off. It smelled like burning flesh. My husband made jokes and kept me laughing the whole time. The gynecologist was amazing! This GYN had all my previous paperwork so she was able to know what was going on.
When the results came back, it turned out to be 9.5 on cancer scale. If I would have waited even a few months longer to have a pap, I may have fully had cervical cancer.
Some things I’ve learned since all this shit happened: there are many strains of HPV, types that cause cancer and types that cause warts. Males can carry HPV and not know it, and there are no tests to check males.
I may not be able to have children or carry them to term (luckily I don’t want them). I think I know who gave it to me, but I’m not sure. Condoms don’t protect fully against HPV. And it is much more common than you think to have HPV, unfortunately.
I had to have a pap done ever 6 months until I had 3 in a row that came back normal. This past December 2011 was when I was officially given a letter that I could resume yearly pap smears.
- Michelle, USA
Début de l'événement
22.01.2022
Fin de l'événement
22.01.2022